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fcbruno
post Jan 14 2011, 09:40 PM
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Hi Guys

I can't remember the last time I really cried...probably when my mum died back in 2000. My dog Bruno got ill last November 25 2010 and my dad and I tried everything possible to get him better. We saw lots of vets and made Bruno as comfortable as possible.

I must admit that while Bruno was ill it caused me to sink into a deep depression which obliterated any happiness over the Christmas and New Year period.

I now feel the 'black cloud' I've been suffering is at last drifting way from my mind. Today's the first day I haven't full-on cried (I certainly have had tears in my eyes on several occasions when I get a happy flashback of Bruno) so I'm hoping that my no longer crying is a sign that I will now be able to bounce back from my sadness and get on with my life again?

I made this video tribute for Bruno if you would like to see it. From approx 3 mins in there is some nice HD footage I took of Bruno and my dad on a beach one Christmas Day a few years ago.

Take care

Peter


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moon_beam
post Feb 6 2011, 10:57 AM
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Hi, Peter, greetings to you and your dad across the "great pond" to the beautiful Emerald Isle this Sunday morning from Virginia. Yes, it is vitally important to allow yourself to grieve the physical loss of your precious Bruno. Trying to suppress it or rationalize it or become stoic only compounds the grief adjustment journey, and can actually cause both physical and emotional challenges further down the road. Our society in general, and that includes our global society for people are people no matter where you go, barely give us permission to grieve openly for the physical loss of a human family member or friend. Once the funeral or memorial service is performed, our society believes our grieving is over with - - life goes on, get on with it When it comes to our beloved companions, while we may initially receive sincere sympathy from human family members and friends, the feeling of "it's just a . . ." becomes obvious when they no longer want to "hear about it." And so, in order to "survive" in what is referred to as "the normal world" we suppress our grief and put on a "putblic face" so that others will not be angered or confused or embarrassed by our normal grief.

I know what it's like to have to do this - - both with my own immediate family members as well as when I'm at work and out and about in the public. So, I do my grieving privately here at home, and I know there is one place I can come to where I will be accepted for who I am and what I am feeling - - here among my friends on Lightning Strike.

So, Peter, please know you do not ever have to put on a "public face" here. Please know we will ALWAYS truly and sincerely and honestly want to know how you're doing both now and years down the road - - there is no "expiration date" here in this forum. Each phase of this grief adjustment journey is different, and each of us travel this grief adjustment journey differently. We are here for each other, and it is through our individual and collective strength that each of us find the courage and support and hope to keep moving forward in our earthly journey in a way that will honor our beloved companions.

This weekend has been a busy one. My garage has been a bit cluttered with recyclicables and special trash items. The weather has not been cooperative for me to go into the city to drop things off at the collection center, so I straightend up the garage a bit yesterday and organized things so that it isn't quite so cluttered now. I was a bit exhausted after that. I gated off the garage door that leads into the kitchen so that Noah could watch what I was doing, and he kept vigil over me until I was done. We are taking it easy today, and as I'm writing to you Noah is stretched out next to me in the sunbeams coming through the window. But I'm also "planning" in my mind on rearranging some things here in the basement living quarters to make the space more organized and easier to dust. But the actual physical employment of this "planning" will be done on a different day. Today is a "lazy day."

The sun is shining brightly and our temperatures are supposed to get into the upper 40's, maybe 50 something today and maybe tomorrow, but then they are to plummet again as a reminder that it is still definitely winter here. Snow is in the forecast for Thursday. I have arranged to have Thursday off from work iin anticipation of having some work done to upgrade my security system which monitors for fire, burglary, and medical emergencies. Knowing that efforts will be made to rescue Noah should a fire or break in occur while I'm not home is comforting to me, and since I'm the only human in the household and not getting any younger, having the medical alert is beneficial too. The upgrade will be to transfer the monitoring from a land line phone system to a cell phone system, which will then allow me to cancel my land line phone service and just use my cell phone. The land line phone service has become so expensive, and I have been keeping it primarily for the security system monitoring. The funds that I will "save" from not having to pay for a land line phone system will now go to paying the increase in electric service imposed by the electric company because of increased charges (not increased actual usage). This winter I have been using space heater in the basement living quarters instead of the furnace installed just for the basement, while only using the separate unit for the upstairs with the temperature turned down to about 65. I used the air conditioning very sparingly last summer here in the basement while relying primarily on fans to cool and circulate the air. It's incredible to me that the less electricity I use and try to conserve the higher my electric bill becomes because of the increased charges for the "privilege" of having electricity. In the 15 years I have been in my current home, my electric bill has tripled in cost. It does give me pause for the future years as I become more advanced in my senior years and budget conscious financial resources.

But - - enough of this. I hope today is a better one for you, Peter, and that you feel your Bruno's sweet Living Spirit with you. Please know you and your dad are in my thoughts and prayers, Peter, and will look forward to knowing how you're doing. Say hello to the birds and other woodland critters in your garden for me.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam


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The most blessed way I have of knowing God's comforting love and grace is to look into the eyes and heart of God's creatures' sweet angelic face.
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- fcbruno   Today's The First Day I Haven't Cried   Jan 14 2011, 09:40 PM
- - Brutus   Peter, I am so sorry for your loss of Bruno, but I...   Jan 14 2011, 10:37 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Peter, please permit me to add my sincerest sy...   Jan 15 2011, 01:43 PM
- - fcbruno   Thanks Sonya and moon_beam for your beautiful post...   Jan 15 2011, 07:16 PM
- - Christina R.   I am so sorry for your loss. I watched your video...   Jan 16 2011, 01:20 AM
|- - fcbruno   Thanks so much for your comforting words Christina...   Jan 16 2011, 06:23 AM
- - Sassy   QUOTE (fcbruno @ Jan 14 2011, 09:40 PM) H...   Jan 16 2011, 08:00 AM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Peter, getting our beloved companions' ash...   Jan 16 2011, 10:02 AM
- - fcbruno   Hi Cryss your blog is a lovely tribute to Sassy. T...   Jan 17 2011, 07:31 AM
|- - Sassy   QUOTE Yesterday I played the Bruno video on DVD in...   Jan 21 2011, 08:05 AM
|- - fcbruno   QUOTE (Sassy @ Jan 21 2011, 01:05 PM) Hav...   Jan 23 2011, 12:27 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Peter, I can relate to how hard it was for you...   Jan 17 2011, 04:00 PM
- - Cheryl83   Hi Peter, I just watched your video. It's bea...   Jan 18 2011, 09:32 AM
- - fcbruno   Hi moon_beam I'm glad your happy memories of A...   Jan 18 2011, 01:18 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Peter, bless your dad - - I can only handle so...   Jan 18 2011, 03:20 PM
- - JoanneL   Just want to say that I am thinking of you today. ...   Jan 18 2011, 10:35 PM
|- - fcbruno   QUOTE (JoanneL @ Jan 19 2011, 03:35 AM) J...   Jan 20 2011, 08:58 AM
- - Saskia   Hi Peter, What a wonderful video of your dog Brun...   Jan 19 2011, 11:10 PM
- - fcbruno   Hi moon_beam thank you for your kind post. Yeah it...   Jan 20 2011, 08:44 AM
- - Saskia   Hi Peter, That photo of my Bruno is also on the d...   Jan 20 2011, 11:55 PM
|- - fcbruno   QUOTE (Saskia @ Jan 21 2011, 04:55 AM) Hi...   Jan 22 2011, 08:55 AM
- - tahoeden   Hi Peter, Thanks for your response. I immediatel...   Jan 21 2011, 04:23 AM
- - Sassy   I just watched your video again (have watched it a...   Jan 21 2011, 08:18 AM
|- - fcbruno   QUOTE (Sassy @ Jan 21 2011, 01:18 PM) I j...   Jan 23 2011, 11:46 AM
- - AmberS   The same way we do after all those big, life-chang...   Jan 21 2011, 09:17 AM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Peter, just stopping by to say "hello....   Jan 21 2011, 05:08 PM
|- - fcbruno   QUOTE (moon_beam @ Jan 21 2011, 10:08 PM)...   Jan 23 2011, 11:55 AM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Peter, it's so good to hear from you today...   Jan 23 2011, 12:42 PM
|- - fcbruno   QUOTE (moon_beam @ Jan 23 2011, 05:42 PM)...   Jan 25 2011, 07:41 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Peter, stopping by to say "hello" an...   Jan 30 2011, 11:59 AM
|- - fcbruno   QUOTE (moon_beam @ Jan 30 2011, 04:59 PM)...   Jan 30 2011, 10:31 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Peter, the nights are hard to manage, particul...   Jan 31 2011, 05:35 PM
|- - fcbruno   Thanks for your lovely message moon_beam Tonight ...   Feb 4 2011, 10:49 PM
- - fcbruno   Candles lit in St Peter's Cathedral, Belfast, ...   Feb 5 2011, 08:55 AM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Peter, it's so good to log on to find your...   Feb 5 2011, 01:23 PM
- - rainbohdi   QUOTE For any of you grieving over your little fri...   Feb 5 2011, 02:04 PM
- - fcbruno   Hi Rain Of course, if I ever say anything that mi...   Feb 5 2011, 02:35 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Peter, greetings to you and your dad across th...   Feb 6 2011, 10:57 AM
- - JoanneL   Hello Peter, What a sweet face Bruno had. He looks...   Feb 6 2011, 02:16 PM
- - fcbruno   Hi moon_beam I'm glad you got your garage sor...   Feb 13 2011, 05:49 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Peter, it's so good to catch up with you a...   Feb 14 2011, 07:36 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Peter, just stopping by to say hello, and to l...   Mar 5 2011, 11:25 AM
|- - fcbruno   QUOTE (moon_beam @ Mar 5 2011, 04:25 PM) ...   Mar 6 2011, 09:17 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Peter, so good to hear from you and to know th...   Mar 7 2011, 03:06 PM
|- - fcbruno   Hi moon_beam That's great to hear you've ...   Mar 7 2011, 04:15 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Peter, how so sad about the horse. I still ge...   Mar 8 2011, 06:20 PM
|- - fcbruno   Hi moon_beam and everyone else on the forum Havin...   Jul 31 2011, 01:30 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Peter, oh it's so good to see you again wi...   Jul 31 2011, 04:13 PM
- - LoveMyMickey   Hi Peter...it's nice to meet you. I'm so ...   Jul 31 2011, 04:52 PM
- - raerae777   Hi Peter, I hope you are doing well. I love tho...   Aug 2 2011, 11:43 PM
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