Sudden Death Of My Little Girl Options

[JoanneL]

I am very new here as I just registered last night. I wrote a new topic post but now I can't find it on the site so I am trying again. My husband took our 2 little Schnoodles out for their morning walk on Monday and a few minutes later I got his frantic call. Our little girl had gotten off her leash, run into the street and was hit and killed by a car. We took her to the ER even though we knew she was gone. I can't remember ever being so hysterical in my life. I have cried and wailed for the last 4 days.
I am so glad I found this site last night and that all of you are out there. It is so lonely trying to go through this pain. My husband and I are not really able to talk much about it yet. I know he is replaying the scene in his head and always will. We have our little boy, her brother, and he is trying to figure out why everything has changed.
Friends have said we should think to the future about getting another dog but right now all I can think about is my Zoe and the fact that I will never hold her again or get those sweet kisses from her when I get home from work at night.

[moon_beam]

Hi, Joanne, physical and emotional exhaustion - - for whatever reason - - can increase the effects of grief, so I wish to reassure you that what you are feeling is very normal. It also lowers our immune system, so you must be sure to try to get as much rest as possible.

Yes, this deep grief will lessen, Joanne - - one day at a time. Will it ever completely go away? Probably not because the fact will always be that a part of you that belongs only to Zoe is incomplete because she is no longer physically present in your day to day life. The GOOD NEWS is that you ALWAYS AND FOREVER have her sweet Living Spirit in your heart and memories - - she is forever a heartbeat close to you and within you. And the deep sorrow you are having now will lessen.

Kasper - - what a cute name!! So, it will still be about 3 or 4 more weeks before your new little fur son comes home. I hope you will be able to find comfort in knowing that your precious Zoe is smiling in approval that you are following her lead in welcoming her younger "brother" to love and take care of. Zoe will always be Kasper's big sister, and I'm positive that in some way she will be guiding him in learning all the things he should know about being a good fur son and fur brother.

Joanne, I know your heart is filled with so many emotions that sometimes it may feel like you really don't know which way is up. May you find that direction here, Joanne, through our individual and collective attempts to offer you encouragement, comfort, and hope.

Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, Joanne, and that I look forward to knowing how you're doing whenever possible.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam