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[kestle]

Hello all.

Our "Baby" was born 27/11/97. She was a Patterdale Jack Russell.

She was dead at birth and left in the membrane by her mum who rejected her. I broke the membrane, she was lifeless. My husband tried to take her off me to bury her. I held onto her and told him to leave us alone. My husband went out in disgust saying "she's dead". I immediately started to vigorously massage here tiny body (about 5" long) and put her nose and mouth in mine, how long for I do not know. Suddenly there was a movement in one of her tiny paws. She then just sprang into life and squeeked. She was alive. I have never prayed so hard in my entire life.

I have always rescued animals, so perhaps my experience helped, my husband said that I must be a witch! She was so loved and spoilt. She was the boss. She was tiny but perfect, ginger haired and beautiful. I bottlefed her and I was her mummy.

It was her 13th birthday on the 27th November 2010. Her lovely ginger face was now white with age. I was so glad that she made it to 13. We bought her a new collar, lead and coat. She loved going out in the car and had lots of caravan holidays. Recently she just went out on little walks as she was doddery. From the 7th December she refused any of her favourite foods. On the 8th December her little legs began to give way and she just wanted to sleep. She was in the house on a quilt, comfy at the side of the radiator. She was telling us that the was ready to go to heaven. She went in her sleep peacefully, with my sons and I stroking and kissing her, holding her little paws. We are so grateful for 13 wonderful years and she will always be with us. She is buried outside my front door in her new coat, collar and lead.

My husband died five years ago aged just 53. He loved Baby so much, as we all did. I hope my husband is now looking after her as we have, our Baby was a miracle.

We are devastated yet happy for her.

Bless her, be happy our precious Baby, we love you so much.

It's the ones left behind who suffer. She really was our Baby from the day she took her first breath to the say she took her last. She was there for us and we were there for her. It could never have been long enough. ***

[moon_beam]

Hi, Gloria, as we get older and experience losses of loved ones - - whatever the life form - - we better understand how fragile life is. We no longer have the "invincibile" mind set that is part of younger years. And - - as we get older we experience more losses because all the people we grew up with, went to school with, work with are becoming physically fragile as well. The physical loss of loved ones is a reminder to us of our individual mortality and our vulnerability, and this becomes more prominent as we get older.

Clinical professionals are now recognizing that the physical loss of a beloved companion is as traumatic, if not more so, as the physical loss of a human family member or friend. Why? Because our beloved companions bring to us their unconditional love and undivided attention, and we in turn surrender ourselves to them completely without reservation. This is very unique from our relationships with our human loved ones - - for with our human loved ones there are expectations, hopes, desires, dreams, etc. in our relationships with them. With our beloved companions, though, they just accept us for who we are - - regardless of what we have or don't have socially, financially, etc.. All they ask in return is that we love them and take care of them to the very best of our ability on whatever level that is.

So, Gloria, from one "golden" valued citizen to another (for we are both past our "golden anniversary of 50" by a few years), it really doesn't matter what our chronological age is, it doesn't matter if our loss is our first, tenth, or fiftieth - - the deep grief we feel when we lose a beloved companion never gets "easier" - - and should never be expected by others around us to "be easier." Unfortunately not everyone in our lives understands this, and sometimes this includes the ones who are the closest to us. This is one of the many reasons why this wonderful forum is here - - for each of us to come together to be among people who truly do understand what we are feeling and going through.

Gloria, we will look forward to seeing pictures of your beloved companions and to knowing how you're doing whenever possible. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam