I Am Feeling Guilty For Putting My Cat To Sleep Aged 16 Options

[djbrooks]

Hi there it is nice we have the internet to find sites like this that bring such love and devotion to our pets. Thank you for letting me come here.

Friday my wife and I made a difficult decision to put our beloved Misty to sleep she was 16. Last May we had to put our other friend Jasper to sleep at 12 as he had major problems with his bowels and throughout his life had to have a clean out. Since he left, Misty became rather distressed with her life, she could not settle, she ate more than she used too and my wife and I were also unhappy. We stuck with it till now and I just woke up and said something is not right and I could not bear seeing her like that. She used to be a relaxed cat doing what cats do and she loved jasper as they were always on the bed together.

Misty did have a thyroid removed a few years back as she became unsettled, wanting food all the time and we think it might have been the other thyroid, we thought that at 16 she was too old to keep poking her about, so I said to my wife, what do you think, it is decision we both got to make and live with it. I told the vet what was going on and thought she was no longer happy and would be wise to put her to sleep. The vet did not even take her out of the box and she just accepted our wishes. Vets I thought never put down a cat unless it was necessary, but she gave us option of blood tests, but maybe I was selfish for my own ends and just wanted out. I do not know. I now feel guilty.

I am an animal person and I do relate to animals better than humans, my wife seems to have accepted it, but I am racked with guilt and seeing misty slipping into a sleep. What have I done. You cannot go back. The home is now empty it is a void.

Misty came with us from our ground floor flat which we had a garden, we then moved to a first floor flat with a communal garden, when we had Jasper he was blind, I think she was not bothered about going out as she was being a mother to him, she washed and cleaned him. we loved them both, maybe she was no longer happy.

She just kept on and on and she would sit with a paw stuck up begging me for something, I always took her down and let her out as we thought it would be good for her, she never went far. So I do not know. She also started coming to the toilet with us, I always had her on my chest when watching telly, she always came and sat between us in bed and we loved each others company, I even woke up one day and she was sleeping with her head on the pillow, like I had a second wife, she was badly abused when we rescued her and she was loved.

[djbrooks]

thank you moon beam that made us cry and has helped with the guilt and grief. We had misty from 3 and half years where we believe she did not had to good childhood, she was rescued and we chose her as if she was chosen for us. We lived in a ground floor with a garden we then had to move to a first floor flat and a communal garden, I always made sure that windows were closed in the communal area and I took her down, she always went into the bush, so not sure she was happy then. We decided we did not want to give her to another place we were so attached to her so we went a long with it.

We took on another cat called Jasper. he was 5 when we had him, his previous owners could not keep him, but I think the husband pushed his wife to give him away, he was well overweight and I worked to get his weight down so he could clean himself, but it created problems such as megacolon and we did our best to get medical attention to keep him comfortable. In the end at 12 we did not want him to have anymore ops and we let him go.

My wife and I both have disabilities struggled to do our best for them, I just woke up Friday morning and I was so frustrated that I had to get her to a vet and free her. The vet did not even do simple checks she offered blood tests, my wife and I decided that we no longer can cope and it was not fair on her. The vet did not even take her out of the box she just gave 2 options, tests or put to sleep.

That is my guilt, i killed our cat.