Sudden Loss Of Ted, Grief Options

[Ted's Mom]

My husband found Ted and his sister Ellie two weeks after we lost our first cat (LeeLee) due to kidney failure. This was almost two year's ago. Ted and Ellie were brother and sister and were so small that we thought Ellie was a boy for several days. We were still grieving for LeeLee and didn't think we were ready for a new pet and we now had two. Over the past two years, Ted stole my heart. I loved him and he loved me equally as much or more. He could hear me putting clean sheets on the bed from miles away and he would run and get under the sheet. I would just make him up in the bed and have to get him out later. He loved that and so did I.

Last night, my husband came home and Ted was laying on the sidewalk in front of house dead. He had no visible injuries, no blood, no broken bones, nothing. We can only imagine that he got into something poisonus or was given something poisonos. He was only 2 years old (if that) so I never dreamed he would be gone so soon.

My heart is broken and I am grieving for him like I have never grieved for another pet. I think it's because he was "mine." He loved me more than anyone else in the world. I miss everything about him down to the silly little looks he got on his face sometimes.

I'm also worried about Ellie. Although they didn't always get along, this was her brother and they have never been separated. She's been looking for him today so I don't think she realizes he is gone yet. I think there are rough days ahead for her.

Thank you for letting me vent about Ted to people that obviously understand. I can honestly say that I know how each of you are feeling and I am so sorry for your loss.

[beth]

I am sorry for your loss. I had a similar experience several years ago. A cat I had for 18 years was found lying in the yard dead. There was nothing visibly wrong with her any where. I assumed it was a heart attack etc.. Then 5 months later another cat I had wanted out to go to the bathroom. I heard a dog bark and raced out to see about him. Several dogs were standing around him, I chased them away and rushed him to the pet ER but he died. They said it had crushed his trachea. Outside however there were no visible marks to him either. Now I am very protective of my cats keeping them inside or in the fenced in yard with a pet fence in system. However, as you may read my "missing" cat story, nothing is guaranteed no matter how we try to protect them. I did want you to know, to protect Ellie, that this could be what happened to Ted. I am sorry for your pain. Beth