A Bit Worried, Not Really Bonding, with Leopold Options

[ladywolf]

I am a bit worried--I find that I am not really "bonding" with Leopold. He is SO independent that I forget to play with him and try to have bonding time--he spends most of his time outdoors, away from me. I guess the bottomline truth is, I'm just never as attached to cats as I am to dogs. I've had SO MANY of them--they have come and gone, probably twenty cats over the years--they all die young, except my last one, and even she disappeared and probably joined the food chain, but at least she was 15 years old...

So maybe I protect myself from getting too attached because of my past experiences? Or is it just that I am really more of a dog person than a cat person at heart? Or was it too soon for me to get a new pet, too soon after Ladywolf's death (a month).

Or is it that he is SO bold that he almost intimidates me? Not that I'm afraid of him, but that I perceive him as being bolder than I am, and I'm pretty bold!

Or is it that my tiny house is set up such that there is no sofa or easy chair, just the bed and the computer chair for spending comfortable time--and his forays up onto the computer desk infuriate me, so bed is really the only place that we can spend relaxed time together, which we do?

Or am I expecting too much too soon?

Maybe getting him altered will change his behavior a little; I don't know, but I hope so. He is an alpha male kitten if ever I saw one. And cute as a button--I just don't feel that I care about him as much as I cared about my dogs, and this makes me feel confused and sad. Of course, I would do anything I needed to to protect him from harm (except keep him indoors--we'd both go MAD!!!), but do I LOVE him? I'm not really sure.

Any and all input would be welcomed, as I worry about this a lot these days. I started a new thread so that it would get more attention.

Thanks in advance!

Hugs from Margi, Spiritwolf, and Leopold The King of The Universe

[moon_beam]

Hi, Margi, I'm so o o glad to know that you're doing better with your dental procedure this time. That is such a blessing - - a true answer to prayer.

And I'm glad to know that Leopold is a "hit" at the vet's office. I'm smiling at his encounter with the receptionist's counter. My Eli - - he was a pistol, too. I have a security system here at home for burglary, fire, and medical. Eli LOVED to climb onto everything and everywhere - - NOTHING was to high and NOTHING was off limits - - in his opinion. I had a glass vase with artificial flowers that I kept on a table. Eli LOVED this table - - because I did not want him on it. One morning after I had gotten in the car and driven down the driveway to go to work I heard an alarm sounding, and I thought, "hm, that sounds close. I wonder whose that is." I opened the driver's window and realized that it was MY security alarm going off. Well, I rushed back into the house, and discovered what had happened: Eli had gotten on the table and had accidentally knocked off the vase onto the floor - - which set off the "glass breakage" sensor which set off the burglary alarm. When an alarm is set off, the monitoring company calls to see if everything is okay or if they need to send the police. So, I had to give them my code to verify that everything was okay.

Well, poor little Eli was so shaken from that event - - the alarm is quite obnoxious in tone and velocity - - he NEVER did anything like that again.

So, yes, the long and short story is - - I can so o o o relate to your tales of Leopold's adventures. Thank you so o oo much for sharing them.

I'm wondering if your neighbor is having the same difficulties with the ISP. The wind storm may have damaged something in the cable connection - - maybe? I'm sorry you're having these "technology" challenges, Margi.

Margi, I hope that you and Leopold will have a pleasant and peaceful evening. I hope that cool breezes and gentle rains will come to soothe your tired and dusty spirits. I hope that you will feel the presence of your precious Spiritwolf at all times and in all circumstances. Please know you are frequently in my thoughts and prayers every day, and that I look forward to sharing your news whenever possible.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam