Lost My Baby Options

[galandria]

Hello. I am new here. I just lost my 4 year old Bulldog, Missy, to heat stroke. I am heartbroken and grief stricken. I am feeling guilt, sick to my stomach, angry, depressed. I didnt get out of bed for 3 days and I had to take her pictures down because I cant bear to look at them. My house is so empty. My cats are a big comfort but I miss my Doodlebug so much. She was my beautiful baby.

My husband and I talked and we decided to get another dog. I wasnt sure where my grief would take me but it has taken me in the direction of wanting to fill my house with love. This tragedy has taught me that life is too short and I dont want to spend it denying myself any happiness. My family is not being supportive about a new dog. They say I am too fragile because of how I am grieving for Missy and that if anything happens to the new dog that I will go to pieces.

I feel extreme guilt as well. Am I acting too fast? Am I disrespecting her memory? If a child dies do parents "replace" them? But the emptiness is crushing me. I feel like I am not going to make it through this. Does anyone have any advice to offer?

[Cheryl83]

Dear Galandria,

I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your darling Missy. This is one of the hardest things we have to go through. Sometimes you feel like you will never get through it. It's hard when other people don't understand, but try to avoid those people if possible. THEY are the unlucky ones as they've never been blessed with a love and bond as unique as we all have. We all understand, and we are here for you during this painful journey, for as often and as long as you need us.

Hang in there, Cheryl x

P.S. Would love to see a picture of Missy if you are able to post one. I LOVE bulldogs