Still Sobbing A Month Later Options

[catmomof4]

I'm sure it is perfectly normal to feel the pain and grief that I am still experiencing, but it is so foreign to me. I do ok during the day. It's at night when I go to bed and I am lying there quiet that I hear him and see him. I do have other cats, 3 more, and they love to cuddle with me as soon as I lie down, which makes me think of him even more.

I try to give my other babies as much love and attention I can when I am feeling so sad and blue, and somehow, hope to comfort them as well because my oldest guy is missing him too. He spends most of his time on the computer desk. Far away from the coffee table that he and his brother always shared. It's heartbreaking because I feel his grief and depression, but have no way to help him, which makes me even sadder.

I know one day I will be able to think of Habibi and smile, but for now, my heart continues to grieve.

Here is a pic of the coffee table buddies - Habibi on the left and his big brother Pasheela on the right.

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[moon_beam]

Hi, catmom, please permit me to offer you my sincerest sympathies in the loss of your precious Habibi. Losing a beloved companion is never easy regardless of the circumstances or how long we have been blessed with the privilege of their company. It doesn't matter if it's our first grief experience or our thousandth - - the grief journey is never easy because the loss we are experiencing is as unique as the individual relationship we share with our beloved companions.

Grieving can be more pronounced at night than it is during the day, actually, because there are distractions during the day to keep us focused - - to force us to focus on other things - - employment, household chores, errands, bills to pay, etc.. Night time does not offer as many distractions, so it forces us to deal with our grief. Even when we have other furkids in our home this does not diminish the deep loss that everyone is feeling. When there is a loss of a beloved companion, the entire dynamics of the household changes - - including for the surviving companions who are now faced with having to re-structure their "accountability" or "superiority" circle - - like what their wild cousins do when there is a loss within their "tribe".

Catmom, this grief journey is one of the hardest experiences we will have in our journey on this side of eternity. It's a one day at a time journey, sometimes a one moment at a time journey. Comforting your precious furkids will also help comfort you, and will bring each of you closer together.

And for you to be able to be there for your furkids, it is important for you to know you are not alone in your grief journey. Each of us are here for your for as long and as often as you need us. We are here to offer you our individual and collective encouragement and support to help you which will help you be there for your precious furkids.

Catmom, thank you so much for sharing with us about your precious Habibi and your other beloved companions. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and look forward to knowing how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[catmomof4]

Hi, catmom, please permit me to offer you my sincerest sympathies in the loss of your precious Habibi. Losing a beloved companion is never easy regardless of the circumstances or how long we have been blessed with the privilege of their company. It doesn't matter if it's our first grief experience or our thousandth - - the grief journey is never easy because the loss we are experiencing is as unique as the individual relationship we share with our beloved companions.

Grieving can be more pronounced at night than it is during the day, actually, because there are distractions during the day to keep us focused - - to force us to focus on other things - - employment, household chores, errands, bills to pay, etc.. Night time does not offer as many distractions, so it forces us to deal with our grief. Even when we have other furkids in our home this does not diminish the deep loss that everyone is feeling. When there is a loss of a beloved companion, the entire dynamics of the household changes - - including for the surviving companions who are now faced with having to re-structure their "accountability" or "superiority" circle - - like what their wild cousins do when there is a loss within their "tribe".

Catmom, this grief journey is one of the hardest experiences we will have in our journey on this side of eternity. It's a one day at a time journey, sometimes a one moment at a time journey. Comforting your precious furkids will also help comfort you, and will bring each of you closer together.

And for you to be able to be there for your furkids, it is important for you to know you are not alone in your grief journey. Each of us are here for your for as long and as often as you need us. We are here to offer you our individual and collective encouragement and support to help you which will help you be there for your precious furkids.

Catmom, thank you so much for sharing with us about your precious Habibi and your other beloved companions. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers, and look forward to knowing how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

Dear Moon Beam,

It took me a while to come back on here and reply to these posts because when I read yours I was crying and could no longer see the computer screen! I am so thankful for your kind words and your thoughtfulness. Your advice just confirms that I need to cry when I feel like it and just allow myself the time to grieve in MY own way.

Habibi was such a special boy I miss everything about him...he will always live in my heart and that helps me get thru the day.

Thank you again for everything. Your prayers are much appreciated.

Tina