Still Sobbing A Month Later Options

[catmomof4]

I'm sure it is perfectly normal to feel the pain and grief that I am still experiencing, but it is so foreign to me. I do ok during the day. It's at night when I go to bed and I am lying there quiet that I hear him and see him. I do have other cats, 3 more, and they love to cuddle with me as soon as I lie down, which makes me think of him even more.

I try to give my other babies as much love and attention I can when I am feeling so sad and blue, and somehow, hope to comfort them as well because my oldest guy is missing him too. He spends most of his time on the computer desk. Far away from the coffee table that he and his brother always shared. It's heartbreaking because I feel his grief and depression, but have no way to help him, which makes me even sadder.

I know one day I will be able to think of Habibi and smile, but for now, my heart continues to grieve.

Here is a pic of the coffee table buddies - Habibi on the left and his big brother Pasheela on the right.

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[Cheryl83]

What beautiful kitties!

It is common (I hate to use the world 'normal' because what is normal for one person's grief, may not be for another) to still be crying after a month. If you think about it, a month is nothing compared to the amount of time we spent with our fur companions. Think of your tears as healing tears. In time, they will become less frequent, but please don't try to rush the process. It's important you allow yourself time to grieve and feel whatever you feel. It's been three months for me, and the tears still come of a night before I go to sleep. That does seem to be the hardest time for most people. The difference now is that they're not as heart-wrenching. They're just kind of sad. That shows that a little healing has taken place. But the time span is different for each individual, so please don't put pressure on yourself.

I'm sorry for your loss. We are all here for you during this painful journey.

Take care, Cheryl x

[catmomof4]

What beautiful kitties!

It is common (I hate to use the world 'normal' because what is normal for one person's grief, may not be for another) to still be crying after a month. If you think about it, a month is nothing compared to the amount of time we spent with our fur companions. Think of your tears as healing tears. In time, they will become less frequent, but please don't try to rush the process. It's important you allow yourself time to grieve and feel whatever you feel. It's been three months for me, and the tears still come of a night before I go to sleep. That does seem to be the hardest time for most people. The difference now is that they're not as heart-wrenching. They're just kind of sad. That shows that a little healing has taken place. But the time span is different for each individual, so please don't put pressure on yourself.

I'm sorry for your loss. We are all here for you during this painful journey.

Take care, Cheryl x

Thank you Cheryl...it may be common, but nothing about this experience is normal for me. He is the first baby out of 4 I have lost. What's worse is he was only 8 and suffered from diabetes. It was so horrible to watch him grow so weak no matter what insulin or how much he was given. He was just wasting away before my eyes. Ugh - I need to stop!

Anyway thank you so much for your encouragment. It means so much to me to have complete strangers understand me and give me much needed help.

THANK YOU!
Tina