Sudden Loss Of Ted, Grief Options

[Ted's Mom]

My husband found Ted and his sister Ellie two weeks after we lost our first cat (LeeLee) due to kidney failure. This was almost two year's ago. Ted and Ellie were brother and sister and were so small that we thought Ellie was a boy for several days. We were still grieving for LeeLee and didn't think we were ready for a new pet and we now had two. Over the past two years, Ted stole my heart. I loved him and he loved me equally as much or more. He could hear me putting clean sheets on the bed from miles away and he would run and get under the sheet. I would just make him up in the bed and have to get him out later. He loved that and so did I.

Last night, my husband came home and Ted was laying on the sidewalk in front of house dead. He had no visible injuries, no blood, no broken bones, nothing. We can only imagine that he got into something poisonus or was given something poisonos. He was only 2 years old (if that) so I never dreamed he would be gone so soon.

My heart is broken and I am grieving for him like I have never grieved for another pet. I think it's because he was "mine." He loved me more than anyone else in the world. I miss everything about him down to the silly little looks he got on his face sometimes.

I'm also worried about Ellie. Although they didn't always get along, this was her brother and they have never been separated. She's been looking for him today so I don't think she realizes he is gone yet. I think there are rough days ahead for her.

Thank you for letting me vent about Ted to people that obviously understand. I can honestly say that I know how each of you are feeling and I am so sorry for your loss.

[beth4275]

I am deeply sorry for your loss. I understand about missing all the little things but with time it does get a bit easier even if it doesn't seem that way right now.

Have you tried talking to Ellie and explaining to her where Ted is ... I know it may sound silly but I honestly think it might help.

My younger sister has a little Maltese (Harley) who just loved my Snoopy and after Snoopy passed away the first time Harley came to the house he looked all over the place for him. He even went down to the basement and then came halfway up the steps and started "crying". I went down to him and explained as best I could to him where Snoopy was and Harley seemed to understand ... he stopped crying anyway. You might want to try that ...

Again ... I am sorry for your loss ...