It Seems To Me That I Want, My HEALTHY wolf back! Options

[ladywolf]

I'm just sitting here pondering the nature of the grieving process, and it has occurred to me that it seems to be true for a lot of us that what we are missing so much and longing for are our young, healthy, energetic, joyful pets--not our old, ailing, pain-ridden, somewhat miserable pets. Not that we don't love them right up until the last minute, and then beyond--but I know that I wouldn't particularly have wanted poor old Ladywolf, with her heavy tumors and diabetes, to have lived a whole lot longer. She couldn't walk very well, she was uncomfortable, she knew that she was compromised and couldn't do what she used to--she was happy to be in my presence, and I her's, but her quality of life had definitely deteriorated, and she was ready to go when she did.

So I, and perhaps a lot of us, are really longing for the "old" fur-kid--the one who didn't have pain and limitations. That's why it's SO painful when a life gets cut short suddenly--it's a major trauma that can cause Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Happy, bouncing, joyful animal here one minute and gone the next...

When I want Lady back, I want the Ladywolf who was somewhere between three (when I met her) and thirteen--the companion who could do anything that we wanted to do, and with enthusiasm and great energy. So I'm yearning for the impossible! THAT Lady left me about two years ago...

Just a observation--not all of you may agree, but it's something to think about...

Big Hugs to everyone--

Margi and Spiritwolf

[Cheryl83]

Hi Margi,

Just checking in with you again to let you know you're still in my thoughts How are you feeling today? I know nothing has changed in your situation, but it's strange how your moods can change on a day-to-day basis for no reason at all!

You know, I was thinking about your situation and find it strange that there are no benefits out there that can help you through. I have no idea about the benefit situation in the US, but over here in the UK there is a set amount which each person is said to need to live on, and if their income doesn't meet that, there are a number of benefits they can apply for to 'top it up'. I'm unemployed at the moment (but hopefully will be starting college in september) and get something called "Job Seekers Allowance" Providing I am available for, and seeking work, I get money each week to live off. It's not an awful lot, but it's enough to get by. Plus, I get free medical prescriptions, free dentist, etc. Surely there must be something like this in the States? I find it so sad that they can just leave a person to struggle so much. It isn't right. What do people pay there taxes for!

Well, hope to hear from you soon.

Big hugs -- Cheryl xx

P.S. I love the pics of Ladywolf! Such wise, gentle eyes! What a Lady!