Suffering Overwhelming Greif Options

[tracey99]

Hello, I'm so glad I found this forum. I lost one of my dogs earlier this week and the grief is so overwhelming. I know this pain from when I was young but haven't suffered it in many years. I am finding it very difficult to cope. He was only 8 years old, and he had a heart condition. During the vet at a procedure to remove fluid from the area around his heart, his heart stopped and they could not bring him back with CPR. I am shocked and devastated. He was my little baby boy. I promised him I would always take care of him. I thought the pain would be less each day but it seems to be getting worse. I know there are people here who have gone through this and I know people survive it but right now it feels like I cannot ever know how I will move on. My heart has been ripped out.
Thank you for any words that will help me, right now I feel so lost.
Tracey

[moon_beam]

Hi, Tracey, please permit me to offer you my sincerest sympathies in the loss of your beloved companion. Losing a beloved companion is never easy regardless of the circumstances or how long we have been blessed with the privilege of their company.

Unfortunately there are always risks associated with any medical procedure. When you are anticipating a good result only to be faced with the reality of loss as a result of the procedure despite the best efforts of the medical team this is very rightfully very devastating.

Tracey, what happened is not your fault. You gave your permission to have this procedure done with the very best interests at heart for your precious companion. Without the fluid removed he would surely have died. You were giving him a chance to have a quality of life in the midst of a very serious medical condition. None of us have the benefit of foreknowledge, and I'm sure your vet is equally devastated about what happened, or at least I hope he / she is. Your precious baby boy knows that you would do everything in your power to move heaven and earth to protect him, to give him a healthy and happy life with you. Rest assured he is looking at you from heaven's perfect garden with only love and admiration in his heart for you.

Tracey, this grief journey is one of the most traumatic experiences we will have in this life to endure. Unfortunately there is no easy way through it. It's a one day at a time journey filled with emotions that are so unpredictable from one day to the next, from one moment to the next, particularly in the early stages of the deep grief. One of the many things to remember is that you are not alone in your journey. Each of us are here for you for as long and as often as you need us.

Tracey, we would love to know more about your baby boy - - what his name is, memories you would like to share with us, pictures you would like to share. I know right now that words are inadequate in comforting a shattered heart, but I hope somehow you will feel comforted in knowing that you are in my thoughts and prayers, and we look forward to knowing how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam

[tracey99]

Thank you very much Moon Beam, I appreciate your reply and kind words. I know there is no easy way through it, and it is one day at a time. I am grateful for all of you and finding this wonderful place to help me go through this.
Tracey

Hi, Tracey, please permit me to offer you my sincerest sympathies in the loss of your beloved companion. Losing a beloved companion is never easy regardless of the circumstances or how long we have been blessed with the privilege of their company.

Unfortunately there are always risks associated with any medical procedure. When you are anticipating a good result only to be faced with the reality of loss as a result of the procedure despite the best efforts of the medical team this is very rightfully very devastating.

Tracey, what happened is not your fault. You gave your permission to have this procedure done with the very best interests at heart for your precious companion. Without the fluid removed he would surely have died. You were giving him a chance to have a quality of life in the midst of a very serious medical condition. None of us have the benefit of foreknowledge, and I'm sure your vet is equally devastated about what happened, or at least I hope he / she is. Your precious baby boy knows that you would do everything in your power to move heaven and earth to protect him, to give him a healthy and happy life with you. Rest assured he is looking at you from heaven's perfect garden with only love and admiration in his heart for you.

Tracey, this grief journey is one of the most traumatic experiences we will have in this life to endure. Unfortunately there is no easy way through it. It's a one day at a time journey filled with emotions that are so unpredictable from one day to the next, from one moment to the next, particularly in the early stages of the deep grief. One of the many things to remember is that you are not alone in your journey. Each of us are here for you for as long and as often as you need us.

Tracey, we would love to know more about your baby boy - - what his name is, memories you would like to share with us, pictures you would like to share. I know right now that words are inadequate in comforting a shattered heart, but I hope somehow you will feel comforted in knowing that you are in my thoughts and prayers, and we look forward to knowing how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam