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![]() Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 830 Joined: 6-December 09 From: Oracle, Arizona Member No.: 6,254 ![]() |
I'm just sitting here pondering the nature of the grieving process, and it has occurred to me that it seems to be true for a lot of us that what we are missing so much and longing for are our young, healthy, energetic, joyful pets--not our old, ailing, pain-ridden, somewhat miserable pets. Not that we don't love them right up until the last minute, and then beyond--but I know that I wouldn't particularly have wanted poor old Ladywolf, with her heavy tumors and diabetes, to have lived a whole lot longer. She couldn't walk very well, she was uncomfortable, she knew that she was compromised and couldn't do what she used to--she was happy to be in my presence, and I her's, but her quality of life had definitely deteriorated, and she was ready to go when she did.
So I, and perhaps a lot of us, are really longing for the "old" fur-kid--the one who didn't have pain and limitations. That's why it's SO painful when a life gets cut short suddenly--it's a major trauma that can cause Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Happy, bouncing, joyful animal here one minute and gone the next... When I want Lady back, I want the Ladywolf who was somewhere between three (when I met her) and thirteen--the companion who could do anything that we wanted to do, and with enthusiasm and great energy. So I'm yearning for the impossible! THAT Lady left me about two years ago... Just a observation--not all of you may agree, but it's something to think about... Big Hugs to everyone-- Margi and Spiritwolf |
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![]() Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 830 Joined: 6-December 09 From: Oracle, Arizona Member No.: 6,254 ![]() |
Thanks, Moon Beam. I shouldn't let just one post throw me off track so much, I guess. It's a hard time right now for me, just barely managing to survive. I decided to start a new blog today, on rising above poverty. I called it divingforbrie.blogspot.com . The title's about DUMPSTER diving for food, which I haven't done recently, but used to do a lot...
I'm having a BLAH day, don't feel very motivated to do anything. The summer heat is really getting to me this year. Paradoxically, the neighbors are gone today, but it's too hot to enjoy my peaceful front porch. That's June in Arizona. Anyway, thanks again for assuring me that I belong here. Hugs from Margi and Spiritwolf |
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