It Seems To Me That I Want, My HEALTHY wolf back! Options

[ladywolf]

I'm just sitting here pondering the nature of the grieving process, and it has occurred to me that it seems to be true for a lot of us that what we are missing so much and longing for are our young, healthy, energetic, joyful pets--not our old, ailing, pain-ridden, somewhat miserable pets. Not that we don't love them right up until the last minute, and then beyond--but I know that I wouldn't particularly have wanted poor old Ladywolf, with her heavy tumors and diabetes, to have lived a whole lot longer. She couldn't walk very well, she was uncomfortable, she knew that she was compromised and couldn't do what she used to--she was happy to be in my presence, and I her's, but her quality of life had definitely deteriorated, and she was ready to go when she did.

So I, and perhaps a lot of us, are really longing for the "old" fur-kid--the one who didn't have pain and limitations. That's why it's SO painful when a life gets cut short suddenly--it's a major trauma that can cause Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Happy, bouncing, joyful animal here one minute and gone the next...

When I want Lady back, I want the Ladywolf who was somewhere between three (when I met her) and thirteen--the companion who could do anything that we wanted to do, and with enthusiasm and great energy. So I'm yearning for the impossible! THAT Lady left me about two years ago...

Just a observation--not all of you may agree, but it's something to think about...

Big Hugs to everyone--

Margi and Spiritwolf

[moon_beam]

Hi, Margi, it is an honor and a pleasure to be of encouragement to you. With everything that you have been through, I don't perceive how you're feeling as "self pity." When life has not been kind over a period of time it's hard to keep a "positive mental attitude" about anything. I have been where you are, Margi. You are an integral part of this Forum, so please know you are ALWAYS welcome here. I know it can't give you a job, I know it can't change what you're living through with your obnoxious neighbors. But we are just a "click" and a log in away, and are blessed to have you among us.

You are in my thoughts and prayers, Margi. And please let us know how things are going.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam