It Seems To Me That I Want, My HEALTHY wolf back! Options

[ladywolf]

I'm just sitting here pondering the nature of the grieving process, and it has occurred to me that it seems to be true for a lot of us that what we are missing so much and longing for are our young, healthy, energetic, joyful pets--not our old, ailing, pain-ridden, somewhat miserable pets. Not that we don't love them right up until the last minute, and then beyond--but I know that I wouldn't particularly have wanted poor old Ladywolf, with her heavy tumors and diabetes, to have lived a whole lot longer. She couldn't walk very well, she was uncomfortable, she knew that she was compromised and couldn't do what she used to--she was happy to be in my presence, and I her's, but her quality of life had definitely deteriorated, and she was ready to go when she did.

So I, and perhaps a lot of us, are really longing for the "old" fur-kid--the one who didn't have pain and limitations. That's why it's SO painful when a life gets cut short suddenly--it's a major trauma that can cause Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Happy, bouncing, joyful animal here one minute and gone the next...

When I want Lady back, I want the Ladywolf who was somewhere between three (when I met her) and thirteen--the companion who could do anything that we wanted to do, and with enthusiasm and great energy. So I'm yearning for the impossible! THAT Lady left me about two years ago...

Just a observation--not all of you may agree, but it's something to think about...

Big Hugs to everyone--

Margi and Spiritwolf

[moon_beam]

Hi, Margi, of course you belong here with us. Each of us grieve differently and our grief is different at different times. You are so important here in offering your wisdom and encouragement and compassion.

You have been through so much over recent months, years, Margi, including not having employment which I know is a MAJOR concern, and now with your peace and solitude horribly disrupted it's amazing to me that you are enduring everything so well.

It is inspiring to read your posts about Spiritwolf, and to have the benefit of your insights. Thank you so o o o much for being here with us, Margi. And hopefully through our posts to you you will feel comforted, too, however you may need it.

When you talk to Spiritwolf, please tell her that moon_beam sends her best regards. And Margi, you are in my thoughts and prayers frequently every day. Please let us know how you're doing.

Peace and blessings,
moon_beam