Unsure - Wouldn't Mind Some Advice, I don't know if this is the right area for this... Options

[Sammysdad]

This is sort of about a new beginning. One that might happen. But I am not sure where else to put this. Sorry if this is not the right place for this topic.

Not even two weeks ago, we lost our boy, Sammy. He was such a joy of a cat. He was only three years old, and had never been sick. In fact, he had just been at the vet the week before, and got a clean bill of health. The afternoon of the Sunday before last (Superbowl Sunday, actually) I came home from running an errand for about half an hour, and found him dead. I have no idea what happened to my poor little boy. He appeared perfectly fine when I left. I am still grief stricken, of course. But managing. Still, I look to see him every day when I come home, and of course he is not there. It's still just a shock. Anyway, long story slightly shorter, we have learned of an older cat who belonged to a lady who died a few months ago. Her family is preparing to sell her house, where her cat still lives. The daughter comes over a couple times a day, and feeds and plays with the cat. They would like a good home for him, and through friends, relatives, etc. we were put in touch with them. Tonight we met this cat. He's 8, and has clearly been through a lot. Very frightened of us, but I could tell he was a sweet boy. I'd love to take him, but I am so unsure about whether I am ready. How do you know if you are ready? How long is the "right" time to wait? I know I won't ever forget Sammy, but I wonder if this is rushing it. My partner is ready. He loved Sammy, but he is one of those people who is totally practical in all things: he loved the cat, the cat died, he misses the cat = solution: get a cat. I don't want to say no, but I don't want to feel like I'm trying to set aside my feelings for the sweet cat we just lost that I'm still working through. So...what do you all think?

[Sammysdad]

Madi, Janika, and PucksMom, thank you for your kind messages. I want to say how much I appreciate your messages of support, and please know that I share your pain over your losses of your cat and dog companions. Yes, it was an awful thing that day I found my little guy was gone. I relive it every day. On the one hand, I wonder what could possibly have happened, and on the other I am almost grateful I do not know. There was no sign of illness, no sign of injury or accident, and no sign of any sort of poisoning, etc. I have read that cats sometimes have heart conditions that cause basically instantaneous death without warning (as can we humans.) I suppose it must have been something like that. Obviously, I will never know. What I do know, and try to keep reminding myself of is that we gave him a good life, and a lot of love and affection, and he was a happy, happy little boy right up until that moment. I suppose it is one of those situations where all I can say is God's will be done, and have faith that Sammy is with God now. And I find that, despite the sadness of his loss, I am truly grateful for the time I got to spend with him.