Unsure - Wouldn't Mind Some Advice, I don't know if this is the right area for this... Options

[Sammysdad]

This is sort of about a new beginning. One that might happen. But I am not sure where else to put this. Sorry if this is not the right place for this topic.

Not even two weeks ago, we lost our boy, Sammy. He was such a joy of a cat. He was only three years old, and had never been sick. In fact, he had just been at the vet the week before, and got a clean bill of health. The afternoon of the Sunday before last (Superbowl Sunday, actually) I came home from running an errand for about half an hour, and found him dead. I have no idea what happened to my poor little boy. He appeared perfectly fine when I left. I am still grief stricken, of course. But managing. Still, I look to see him every day when I come home, and of course he is not there. It's still just a shock. Anyway, long story slightly shorter, we have learned of an older cat who belonged to a lady who died a few months ago. Her family is preparing to sell her house, where her cat still lives. The daughter comes over a couple times a day, and feeds and plays with the cat. They would like a good home for him, and through friends, relatives, etc. we were put in touch with them. Tonight we met this cat. He's 8, and has clearly been through a lot. Very frightened of us, but I could tell he was a sweet boy. I'd love to take him, but I am so unsure about whether I am ready. How do you know if you are ready? How long is the "right" time to wait? I know I won't ever forget Sammy, but I wonder if this is rushing it. My partner is ready. He loved Sammy, but he is one of those people who is totally practical in all things: he loved the cat, the cat died, he misses the cat = solution: get a cat. I don't want to say no, but I don't want to feel like I'm trying to set aside my feelings for the sweet cat we just lost that I'm still working through. So...what do you all think?

[madi]

What an awful thing to happen to Sammy, it would be devastating to come home and find him like that, it would be the last thing you would expect. You certainly have my sympathy, I know what it's like to lose a healthy much loved young cat. I suppose as far as getting another cat so soon after is up to the individual, Personally, I felt so bad after I lost Ulriich and I didn't replace him and I felt like hell, so I would take the cat, because it didn't help my grieving process by not getting another one. I find you are damned if you do and damned if you don't, you still go through the grief anyway, at least a dear cat gets a home if you take it. You will have to make your own mind up in the end and I hope all our views help you come to a decision. Hugs to you and your partner xx

madi xx