How To Savor The Time With A Dying Pet?, It's hard... Options

[ladywolf]

Hi All--

Darnnit, every time I look at Ladywolf now, I'm thinking, "she's dying, I wonder how much more time she has...?" I keep staring at her swollen back leg and wondering if it hurts her, if it's growing or shrinking, if, if, if. When I take her for a walk, I watch her movements constantly to see how much she's being affected by the tumors as she walks. I wonder how much she is missing Poppers. I feel as if I am not doing enough for her, when in fact, I am more or less dedicating my LIFE to her right now.

But there's little pleasure left in my interactions with her, because I am spending all my time with her WORRYING now! All this has happened since the vet confirmed that she has cancer--everything changed, somehow. I'm moving through all the stages of grief constantly, and don't know how to be with her in a "normal" way anymore. Does any of this make sense to you folks? I hate this. I don't want to look at my beloved beauty and see only "dying wolf." It's all making me a little insane, and very very sad.

Help, please! Thanks!

Margi and Ladywolf

[smokey/lady/max]

Hi Margi
I knew you where the right person to help pucksmom I thought of you right away when I read her story. It is very sad that if only the love that we feel could buy all the medicine and care for them. We would have the healthy pets in the WORLD!!!!!. Its just sad that vets today arent as careing as they where years ago. What happened to making a payment plan out of the care and love that the pet owner has. Thank you for giving her kind words sometimes in the mist of my own grief and guilt I find some post hard to respond to. Hope you and Ladywolf are doing good.

Hugs
Anna

[ladywolf]

Hi Margi
I knew you where the right person to help pucksmom I thought of you right away when I read her story. It is very sad that if only the love that we feel could buy all the medicine and care for them. We would have the healthy pets in the WORLD!!!!!. Its just sad that vets today arent as careing as they where years ago. What happened to making a payment plan out of the care and love that the pet owner has. Thank you for giving her kind words sometimes in the mist of my own grief and guilt I find some post hard to respond to. Hope you and Ladywolf are doing good.

Hugs
Anna

Anna--

I had a really hard time responding to Puck's mom's post. I almost erased my answer. This is SUCH a charged subject--the amount that vets charge for care, without any consideration at ALL for what we can afford to pay.

My last vet was one of my closest friends. He would have done ANYTHING for me, whether I could afford to pay or not, but he lives in Santa Fe, and I'm stuck in somewhere, Arizona...

Doctors take payments over time--why don't VET's, for god's sake?

Margi and the Wolf