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ladywolf
post Jan 7 2010, 10:53 PM
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Hi All--

Darnnit, every time I look at Ladywolf now, I'm thinking, "she's dying, I wonder how much more time she has...?" I keep staring at her swollen back leg and wondering if it hurts her, if it's growing or shrinking, if, if, if. When I take her for a walk, I watch her movements constantly to see how much she's being affected by the tumors as she walks. I wonder how much she is missing Poppers. I feel as if I am not doing enough for her, when in fact, I am more or less dedicating my LIFE to her right now.

But there's little pleasure left in my interactions with her, because I am spending all my time with her WORRYING now! All this has happened since the vet confirmed that she has cancer--everything changed, somehow. I'm moving through all the stages of grief constantly, and don't know how to be with her in a "normal" way anymore. Does any of this make sense to you folks? I hate this. I don't want to look at my beloved beauty and see only "dying wolf." It's all making me a little insane, and very very sad.

Help, please! Thanks!

Margi and Ladywolf
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post Jan 8 2010, 05:27 PM
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Hi, Margi, right now you are in shock at learning about Ladywolf's cancer, and of course this is going to be a "focus" now. When Oslo was diagnosed with Laryngeal Paralysis in September 2007 I thought he would not be alive for long from the information I read about LP. It took me quite awhile to "relax" and let Oslo live. He lived for 2 years and 2 months beyond the "expected" prognosis for LP. How to tell if Ladywolf is in pain: Is she limping? Can she weight bear on her leg comfortably? Is she licking and biting at her leg - - could be a sign of discomfort or pain. If / when she is in discomfort or pain there are medications that can help with that to still give her "quality" time. Take one day at a time, Margi, and enjoy each day that you have with your precious Ladywolf. I know it is hard - - all too well. Anticipatory Grief is as hard as the grief journey that comes when our beloved companions are no longer physically with us. Let Ladywolf show you what she needs as she needs it. She is still your precious furchild as she always has been. None of us knows "how long" we have on this side of eternity. The same is true for our furkids, even when we know their life journey is being shortened by illness. Just try to make each minute you have with her the very best quality time as possible. And - - please know you and Ladywolf are in my thoughts and prayers, and please let us know how things are going, okay?

Peace and blessings,
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- ladywolf   How To Savor The Time With A Dying Pet?   Jan 7 2010, 10:53 PM
- - sissycat   I can't say i've been in your shoes, but I...   Jan 8 2010, 12:05 AM
- - madi   Gees Margi, I do feel so sorry for you. I can only...   Jan 8 2010, 02:00 AM
- - Westiesam/Sharon   Hi Margi I'm sorry for what you're going t...   Jan 8 2010, 07:28 AM
- - Rhapsedy   Hi Margi, I know exactly what you are going thru....   Jan 8 2010, 09:03 AM
- - Westiesam/Sharon   Rhapsedy - you said it way better than what I was ...   Jan 8 2010, 09:58 AM
|- - ladywolf   QUOTE (Westiesam/Sharon @ Jan 8 2010, 07...   Jan 8 2010, 01:44 PM
|- - ladywolf   Here's what NOT to do to make your life happie...   Jan 8 2010, 02:55 PM
|- - madi   Gees Margi, you really needed that didn't you?...   Jan 10 2010, 07:56 AM
|- - ladywolf   QUOTE (madi @ Jan 10 2010, 05:56 AM) Gees...   Jan 10 2010, 06:43 PM
- - luvmypets   Margi, I am so sorry to hear about Ladywolf. I k...   Jan 8 2010, 03:08 PM
- - moon_beam   Hi, Margi, right now you are in shock at learning ...   Jan 8 2010, 05:27 PM
- - tanbuck   Margi, I know just how you feel and I'm so sor...   Jan 8 2010, 08:26 PM
- - Westiesam/Sharon   Hi Margi How is ladywolf tonight? I'm still p...   Jan 10 2010, 08:52 PM
|- - ladywolf   QUOTE (Westiesam/Sharon @ Jan 10 2010, 06...   Jan 10 2010, 09:19 PM
- - goliath   Hi Margi................Just wanted to let you kno...   Jan 10 2010, 11:05 PM
|- - ladywolf   QUOTE (goliath @ Jan 10 2010, 09:05 PM) H...   Jan 12 2010, 12:35 AM
- - Brutus   Hi Margi...I bet Ladywolf just loves those wonderf...   Jan 12 2010, 09:48 AM
- - magdalene   Take pictures, lots and lots of pictures. I treas...   Jan 12 2010, 02:53 PM
- - Westiesam/Sharon   Hi Margi Hope you and Ladywolf are doing great...   Jan 13 2010, 07:18 AM
- - smokey/lady/max   Hi Margi, I seen this and thought of you and l...   Jan 15 2010, 07:25 AM
|- - ladywolf   QUOTE (smokey/lady/max @ Jan 15 2010, 05...   Jan 15 2010, 08:46 AM
- - janika   That is so beautiful. Dear Anna is working her mag...   Jan 15 2010, 09:24 AM
|- - ladywolf   QUOTE (janika @ Jan 15 2010, 07:24 AM) Th...   Jan 15 2010, 06:13 PM
- - smokey/lady/max   Hi Margi I knew you where the right person to hel...   Jan 15 2010, 08:36 PM
|- - ladywolf   QUOTE (smokey/lady/max @ Jan 15 2010, 06...   Jan 15 2010, 09:01 PM
- - smokey/lady/max   Margi, Like I said I thought of your situation ri...   Jan 15 2010, 09:10 PM
|- - ladywolf   QUOTE (smokey/lady/max @ Jan 15 2010, 07...   Jan 15 2010, 09:20 PM
|- - ladywolf   Ladywolf has been kind of stumbling around today, ...   Jan 17 2010, 10:47 PM
- - janika   Dear Margi and Ladywolf So sorry to hear about yo...   Jan 18 2010, 03:56 AM
- - ladywolf   Jan and everyone-- Thanks for your words of wisdo...   Jan 18 2010, 08:52 PM
- - smokey/lady/max   Hi Margi, I am so glad that your ladywolf is do...   Jan 18 2010, 10:56 PM
- - ladywolf   Thanks, hon. Ladywolf was quite frisky today. We...   Jan 21 2010, 12:56 AM
|- - madi   Hi Margi, just came here to ask how Lady wolf is d...   Jan 22 2010, 03:55 AM
- - Brutus   Hi Margi...sounds like Ladywolf is doing well on h...   Jan 26 2010, 09:52 AM
|- - ladywolf   Thanks so much, Madi, Sonya and everyone-- I...   Jan 26 2010, 07:31 PM
- - Berta   Marji and Ladywolf, this is the first time I have ...   Jan 26 2010, 11:32 PM
- - Flossie's Mom   I understand how you feel........... been there do...   Jan 27 2010, 08:13 AM
|- - ladywolf   [quote name='Flossie's Mom' date=...   Jan 27 2010, 02:03 PM
|- - ladywolf   Berta-- I am so sorry for your situation with you...   Jan 27 2010, 02:09 PM
|- - Rhapsedy   Margi, I have read some dog cancer stories and so...   Jan 27 2010, 03:16 PM
- - ABT   QUOTE (ladywolf @ Jan 7 2010, 10:53 PM) H...   Jan 27 2010, 06:30 PM
|- - ladywolf   QUOTE (ABT @ Jan 27 2010, 04:30 PM) Hi Ma...   Jan 27 2010, 06:42 PM
- - smokey/lady/max   Hi Margi I haven't been here lately had thi...   Jan 29 2010, 07:30 PM
|- - ladywolf   QUOTE (smokey/lady/max @ Jan 29 2010, 05...   Jan 29 2010, 09:46 PM
- - smokey/lady/max   LADYWOLF Hi Again Margi, I w...   Jan 29 2010, 10:17 PM
|- - ladywolf   QUOTE (smokey/lady/max @ Jan 29 2010, 08...   Jan 29 2010, 10:20 PM
|- - Rhapsedy   QUOTE (ladywolf @ Jan 29 2010, 10:20 PM) ...   Jan 30 2010, 06:02 PM
- - smokey/lady/max   Just napping with mommy and dreaming of snow in A...   Jan 29 2010, 10:54 PM
- - ladywolf   QUOTE (smokey/lady/max @ Jan 29 2010, 08...   Jan 30 2010, 12:04 AM
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