How To Savor The Time With A Dying Pet?, It's hard... Options

[ladywolf]

Hi All--

Darnnit, every time I look at Ladywolf now, I'm thinking, "she's dying, I wonder how much more time she has...?" I keep staring at her swollen back leg and wondering if it hurts her, if it's growing or shrinking, if, if, if. When I take her for a walk, I watch her movements constantly to see how much she's being affected by the tumors as she walks. I wonder how much she is missing Poppers. I feel as if I am not doing enough for her, when in fact, I am more or less dedicating my LIFE to her right now.

But there's little pleasure left in my interactions with her, because I am spending all my time with her WORRYING now! All this has happened since the vet confirmed that she has cancer--everything changed, somehow. I'm moving through all the stages of grief constantly, and don't know how to be with her in a "normal" way anymore. Does any of this make sense to you folks? I hate this. I don't want to look at my beloved beauty and see only "dying wolf." It's all making me a little insane, and very very sad.

Help, please! Thanks!

Margi and Ladywolf

[Rhapsedy]

Hi Margi,

I know exactly what you are going thru. Callaway was sick for 6 months and I went thru all of the same emotions that you are feeling. My whole life revolved around him... I cooked him breakfast and dinner everyday, drove home from work M-F to check on him, I took him everywhere with me because he loved to go for rides, I walked him 3 times a day, I watched every move that he made to make sure he didn't have a new symptom and when he did I would take him into the vet right away... I think my vet thinks I'm crazy. ;-)

I too was grieving this whole time and I'm sure Callaway picked up on it but I was being true to my feelings. I was sad and worried and I couldn't hide those feelings. But I also treated him like a king and tried to do everything for him to make his life better. I didn't do everything perfect or maybe I did, the not being sure if I did everything perfect is what I'm dealing with right now, but we need to realize that everything we do is out of love and we do our best to make everything right. The problem that I had and that you are having is that you aren't sure what the right food and medicine is to prolong Ladywolf's life. You need to go with what you feel, you know Ladywolf, so I think you will make the right decisions.

I wish I could be of more help, I wish I could give you the "right" answer but I think if you just follow your instint you will do the right thing for Ladywolf.

Love and hugs to you and Ladywolf,
Rhapsedy


Hi All--

Darnnit, every time I look at Ladywolf now, I'm thinking, "she's dying, I wonder how much more time she has...?" I keep staring at her swollen back leg and wondering if it hurts her, if it's growing or shrinking, if, if, if. When I take her for a walk, I watch her movements constantly to see how much she's being affected by the tumors as she walks. I wonder how much she is missing Poppers. I feel as if I am not doing enough for her, when in fact, I am more or less dedicating my LIFE to her right now.

But there's little pleasure left in my interactions with her, because I am spending all my time with her WORRYING now! All this has happened since the vet confirmed that she has cancer--everything changed, somehow. I'm moving through all the stages of grief constantly, and don't know how to be with her in a "normal" way anymore. Does any of this make sense to you folks? I hate this. I don't want to look at my beloved beauty and see only "dying wolf." It's all making me a little insane, and very very sad.

Help, please! Thanks!

Margi and Ladywolf
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