Harsh Cruel Words, From a Family Member Options

[Ann H]

I try not to post about my problems with my Snookie being sick but today someone said "Why don't you just put that dog to sleep and put her out of her misery, you know she is eaten up with cancer and is going to die anyway". This person went on to tell me that I am being selfish in keeping her with me and even though she seems to have recovered from her last illness that she must still be in pain.

Why do people have to be so cruel and so hardhearted! This person carried on and on about the money I have spent on her. So what it is none of their business if I wanted to sell my home and be poor the rest of my life. I did not ever borrow money from that person to run all the tests that were done or to pay for her to stay in the hospital.

Oh course I was told no amount of money could save my little girl or I just may have sold my home to fix her. Snookie is not just a dog she is my baby, my child. my heartbeat, the one who loves me in this cruel world. The one who calms me when I am sad and the storms of life seems so hard. Give her up, nothing doing, not until it is her time to go. I will hold onto her with dear life for she is my life.

I am sorry to carry on but when a family member said these things it just kills my soul. They know how I feel about her and should never say things like this.
Ann
Snookie in the car always ready to go.

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[Muffins]

Hi Ann:

I am so terribly sorry that your dad said those "stinging" words to you about your precious Snookie.....
I can imagine the terrible ache in your heart that you had.....and, probably still have...

I believe that "that generation of people" just didn't love their "pets/animals", in the way that we all do. That was
during the Depression, and I can only surmise that any kind of work was #1.....
If that makes any sense at all....

Pamela's quote was perfect, I think:

"...............the older he gets the more fear of death comes to the
surface, we all have it, my dad was afraid and he was a believer too...........So, they don't want to hear about it,
talk about it and a way it comes out is anger and meaness, it's just a way of protecting that vulnerable part.

I will never, ever forget.............when my sweet Ernestine was about 14 & 1/2 years old; that was in 1998......she needed to have a "thyroidectomy", (1/2 of her thyroid removed), because of her hyperthyroidism.
I had, at that time, went to a Church....just exploring, Bible Studies and all.

Anyway, this man, (I can't even say "gentleman", who was in his late 70's -- (mind you, a very, very Church-going Christian man)....
After I had shared my story about my sweet girl having to go for this surgery, and that it was going to cost some
$300.00..... Well worth it, as my girl was going to have a better, healthier life....

He said, right out loud..............."A BULLET ONLY COSTS 25 cents!!!!!"

Needless to say............I WAS SHOCKED..... HEARTLESS, MEAN, CRUEL, ETC., ETC., ETC......

Ann.....People just don't understand.....And.........those people, sometimes, include our family members.....

BUT.............We are the lucky ones, aren't we???? We all know what it's like to be awoken in the morning by a
wet nose......and get tons of kisses........
Ms. Lucy has taken to either sleeping on my chest, or my side, with her sweet lil' face nuzzled into my neck.....
Ben caught a picture of that, and gosh, it's soooooooo precious.....
Not everyone knows what it's like to feel that love....
WE'RE LUCKY!!!

By the way, (oh my.......that's what "BTW" means, huh???) your photo of your beautiful, precious, Snookie Cookie ......in the car, ready to go....is so lovely, too!!!

In your 11/20 4:57am post..........you said,

"I was a little afraid that people might not want me posting since I
have not lost my baby yet.....

Please.............do not EVER FEEL LIKE THAT.......
I have always stayed right here, in the Death and Dying Section, when I come and talk about Ms. Lucy and Mr. Yoster.
And, I was told it was just fine.....
Because,........... LIFE, IS A PART OF DEATH.........AND, DEATH IS A PART OF LIFE......

I am sooooo happy to hear about "Little Schnitzel" as well, and that Snookie and the puppy are getting on well!!!

God Bless You and Yours,
Love, Denise xo