Harsh Cruel Words, From a Family Member Options

[Ann H]

I try not to post about my problems with my Snookie being sick but today someone said "Why don't you just put that dog to sleep and put her out of her misery, you know she is eaten up with cancer and is going to die anyway". This person went on to tell me that I am being selfish in keeping her with me and even though she seems to have recovered from her last illness that she must still be in pain.

Why do people have to be so cruel and so hardhearted! This person carried on and on about the money I have spent on her. So what it is none of their business if I wanted to sell my home and be poor the rest of my life. I did not ever borrow money from that person to run all the tests that were done or to pay for her to stay in the hospital.

Oh course I was told no amount of money could save my little girl or I just may have sold my home to fix her. Snookie is not just a dog she is my baby, my child. my heartbeat, the one who loves me in this cruel world. The one who calms me when I am sad and the storms of life seems so hard. Give her up, nothing doing, not until it is her time to go. I will hold onto her with dear life for she is my life.

I am sorry to carry on but when a family member said these things it just kills my soul. They know how I feel about her and should never say things like this.
Ann
Snookie in the car always ready to go.

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[SJ J & S]

The best advice I can give you is to avoid this person, permanently if possible, practically, until you are ready to face him.

My family were not the best support but to be honest I didn’t expect them to be.

This is your decision alone, and you have to be ready, believe me you will punish yourself enough after so if you are pushed into it you will just never come to terms with the loving act that you had to do.

Ignore them and if they wont leave you alone and you cant talk to them then write to them and tell them that all they are doing is distressing you and that you will do what is necessary when YOU feel it is necessary.
It is your decision alone they do not love Snookie nearly enough to have any say in the matter and you would appreciate their backing off.

As for not posting all your problems, start a kind of diary, say that you don’t expect any replies but you need to tell/write it down, it really helps to get it out of your system then you can move on to the next problem/day.

I went through this for months and didn’t sleep with my husband for at least a month choosing to be with Jude in case she needed me, so what you are going through now is not abnormal – it is quite simply not an easy decision to make, but one you will make when you know the time is right.

If you would like to have a chat then PM me and we could go into the chat room here, let me know.

Love Sue