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[abrm325]

Saturday night my mom told me she found my cat on the driveway and that she had been bitten in the stomach by an animal an hour earlier. She said they buried her afterward. I had my cat for about 11 years and I'm absolutely devastated. I've been going out of my mind since. It kills me because she was a tiny cat and very sweet she would of never intiated a fight with any animal so I know it attacked her first. To make matters worse, I was the one who let her outside that day and she didnt really seem like she even wanted to go outside when normally she runs to the door. I opened the door and she just stood there, then I was like "come on go outside" and she slowly walked outside. It's like she knew something would happen or something. I can't help but blame myself. Everyone is telling me not to but in reality, she would still be here if I didnt let her outside. I've never lost a person who was really close to me so this is probably one of my biggest losses I've experienced. I almost feel as though my child died. My heart is just completely shattered. Does anyone have any advice on how to get through this?

[AngelCareOne]

Dearest abrm325, how are you doing? How are you holding up and how are you feeling? Much the same happened to me. My loss was sudden and due to having been killed. I felt and still feel very guilty because there were so many "red flags" cautioning me that this was going to happen. I just didn't see them at the time. Also, I didn't know then what I soon found out afterwards. Alex was my heart, my soul and my world. I failed him ...

What I do is to ask him to please forgive me. I know he can hear me where he is because he has sent me at least three or more signs. I know he's happy where he is and that's of comfort to me. I feel so badly for you and now you know why I can relate so acutely to your pain. It's because I myself have been there. My world was shattered, too. Just like yourself. I feel very concerned about you, Dear One.

Please write when you're feeling up to it. What was your kitty's name? How did you meet your kitty? Most of all, how are you feeling? Would you like to know some of the many ways you can pay loving tribute in memory to your kitty? There's so many things you can do that won't cost you one penny. It does take time just as it takes time to heal. Remember to be kind to you and take baby steps. OK? OK. Here's what I posted to Madi here at LS ...

Here are some things I do that really help me a lot.

The following is a copy and paste from another site ...

Help and healing

It has been shown that when grief can be expressed, the time needed for healing is often less. Similarly, if the expression of grief is restricted or withheld, the healing process may take much longer.

In addition to talking with others, to do something often helps us work through our grief. By doing something positive during this time of sadness, we expand our focus by celebrating the life of the pet. Activities which may help include:

Planting flowers or a tree in memory of the pet
Making a charitable donation
Holding a funeral or memorial service
Drawing a picture, making a clay sculpture or doing needlework of something that reminds you of your pet (you could do this yourself, or have it done by a professional)
Placing your pet's nametag on your keyring
Writing a poem, song, or story
Composing music or a song
Creating a memorial photo album or scrap book
Writing a letter to your pet
Framing a photograph
Volunteering your time

Me Dottie talking again. I find that writing poems, songs, creating images on my computer help a lot. Also, I did create a Memorial Website a couple months ago or so for Alex. It was free so heck yeah! I also come here (and to Alex's Website) and make posts where I'm speaking with him. In my heart of hearts I know that he hears me, too. I'm not just saying that. My word to you. What seems to help me most of all is to do my best to help others who are going through what we are. Do you have any photos of your fur kid that you could share? If so, I would be honored to enhance it as I've done for so many here at Lighting Strike. People take great comfort seeing their beloved Rainbow Bridge Fur Kids transformed into Angels with gold, glittering wings and halos as well as other pretties. Just think on it and take your time to let me know.

I pray I've been of some small help and we can continue talking until we're blue in the face. You bet. Everyone at LS is here for you, Dear One. You are a Wonderful Fur Kid Mommy!!! Please never forget that. Okay? Okay.

Many Comforting Hugs and Love to You and Your Angel Fur Kid!!!



Always,
Dottie xoxoxox