Thinking Of Harley Options

[harlequin]

I lost my boxer,Harley, on July, 4, 2009. She was my first dog ever. Words cannot express how much a part of my life she was. In June I noticed she wasn't breathing well and not keeping down her water. I took her to the vet thinking she had eaten something that was creating all this discomfort. The vet x-rayed and found a mass in her chest. After a biopsy he told me that it was mediastinal lymphoma and that she had 3 months to live. I was devastated, especially when after 6 weeks she stopped eating and drinking. For my husband and I, it was the toughest decision we had to make to put her down. I feel such a sense of loss and can't seem to find my way back to being happy again.

On top of all of this, my husband and I decided to fill the emptiness by getting two new pups. It's true that they are loving, good dogs but I just can't make a connection. I feel like I'm taking care of someone else's dogs and I wish that someone would relieve me. My husband seems to have moved on but I cry almost every day. I am so stressed out and just want to feel normal again. Is this even normal or do I just lack natural affection? I wish I could get back.

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[chele]

I'm so sorry you lost Harley. It's not easy getting over the loss of our loved ones. Give yourself time with the new pups, and don't try to rush yourself to stop crying over your loss. I was home alone for the first time in nearly 14 years and the silence was deafening. I brought home a new dog about 10 days after I had Callie put to sleep. Half way home with Sandy I was bawling, I felt so guilty getting another dog so soon after Callie's passing. But I wasn't about to take Sandy back, I owed her a good home, AND, I had prayed that Callie would help me find a dog that really needed me. I believe she did help me find Sandy because Callie knew how badly I needed her. Sandy was slow to bond with me which kind of kept the pressure off me. Now I love her dearly and she is becoing a very good friend. Give yourself and the pups time. Allow youself to love Harley AND your new pups. It's not a betrayal to Harley, she may have helped you find those pups because she knew you would need them to get over the loss of her.