Goodbye Harley, saying goodbye Options

[Harley Parley]

IT has been a week since I lost my dog, Harley. He was a Poodle/Terrier SPCA Special, and he brought a ton of joy into our hearts. He had a very tough life when we got him and it showed as he was a timid dog when you first got to know him, but eventually he just cuddle up beside you and beg to be petted.

A week ago he had a cancerous tumour that ruptured and he died of internal bleeding. Totally unexpected and out of the blue. IT has hit me like a ton of bricks. MY Fiancee seems to be handling it way better than I am and I'm beginning to wonder if maybe I'm over reacting, but I just can't see the light at the end of my tunnel. I can get by doing what life wants me to do (work, school, chores) but I feel cynical and jaded.

I know Harley won't come back and I know he is so much happier where he is at the Rainbow Bridge, but why do I feel like crap?

All I know is that I miss him so.

Thank you
Ben

[trevor]

Ben, I'm sorry about Harley. Its an awful thing to have to deal with. I lost my dog Keesha 5 weeks ago. The first week was the worst week of my life....I couldn't eat or sleep. I didn't want to be around anyone....I was just in a trance...in shock. Its gotten a little better since but I don't think the pain will ever totally go away. You just miss them so much.

You said your fiancee is handling it much better than you....i'm in the same boat. My wife was very upset at first and still misses her a lot but is handling it much better than me and seems to be moving on. I think that might be because I had Keesha before we even got together so even though she was a family dog she was more my dog. Was Harley more your dog?

You're certainly not over-reacting. Everyone grieves differently and it will take a lot of time as i've learned. Its been 5 weeks for me and it seems like it just happened. The pain will subside little by little and there will be good and bad days...just don't rush the process. Take care.