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![]() Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 15 Joined: 20-April 09 Member No.: 5,713 ![]() |
I lost my girl Hobbes the cat just about two months ago. She was 20 something and she'd just faded away and died from old age. The cat lived a pretty wonderful life,living with friends of ours 'till she was 10 and then we adopted her and she was with us for 10 years. She always had food,hugs,treats and there was always another cat around her to keep her company. She lived a good life and I think she died a good death. I just feel so hopelessly sad a lot of the time.
I was devastated the first few weeks...truly in pain. The pain subsided and I stopped having to find dark corners to cry in. I was starting to come back. The last week or so has found me crying and crying again. I don't understand this. I was starting to bounce back and feel better about things. Is it normal to start feeling good and then to have this all crash down again? |
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Group: Pet Lovers Posts: 8 Joined: 26-May 09 From: Vermont Member No.: 5,807 ![]() |
I lost my girl Hobbes the cat just about two months ago. She was 20 something and she'd just faded away and died from old age. The cat lived a pretty wonderful life,living with friends of ours 'till she was 10 and then we adopted her and she was with us for 10 years. She always had food,hugs,treats and there was always another cat around her to keep her company. She lived a good life and I think she died a good death. I just feel so hopelessly sad a lot of the time. I was devastated the first few weeks...truly in pain. The pain subsided and I stopped having to find dark corners to cry in. I was starting to come back. The last week or so has found me crying and crying again. I don't understand this. I was starting to bounce back and feel better about things. Is it normal to start feeling good and then to have this all crash down again? Hobbes looks like a beautiful cat! I've actually never heard of a cat living for 20 years and that is pretty amazing. I'm sure you know how fortunate you were to have that time with her - but I also know that knowing that doesn't take away the pain. It's never easy losing our best friends. My dog Buddy died 3 weeks ago and in the beginning I was so so sad and lonely and cried all the time. Then, slowly, I started to feel a little better and a little stronger. But in the last day or two, like you, I crashed again. I didn't realize it until later, but I had been at a baseball game and so many people there had their dogs and of course I pet them all and played with them. It was shortly after that that I became very depressed and started crying again and feeling so hopeless. So, unfortunately yes, it is normal to crash again. Perhaps there was some trigger that you were unaware of that made it all come back in full force. I'm so sorry for your pain because I know exactly how you feel. You just need to cry and grieve as you need to and I think, I hope for us all here, in time, it will be less painful but they will always be in our hearts. Take care. Buddy's Mom |
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