Time Heals? Options

[Jess]

Everyone keeps telling me that time heals and that I will feel better with time, but the weird thing is, I don't feel like time is passing. I don't feel like I'm moving farther away from my cat's death. Every morning when I wake up, I feel like it happened the day before. It's like I'm stuck. Every morning, it feels like a fresh wound to my heart. I don't feel like I'm ever going to get past this and enjoy life again.

[gossamerwings]

Hello MissingJoey,

I am so sorry for your loss and know how hard it is for you and your family. Thing is though it will take time for you to know in you heart and mind and to 'accept' that you couldn't have done anything more to help. You gave massive love and help by making sure he didn't suffer in pain any longer. You gave im the best time whilst he was with you. Inded I am sure he was 'sent' to you because you and your husband were so caring. The good memories will start to come more and more over time and this will help.

It is 2 weeks today since I found my little companion of 12 years had died in his cage. My little budgie Cheeky, which was his name and his nature. He wasn't unwell and was playing with me the night before and just being him. I was absolutely distraught and still so upset daily. I am confident though in what they lady from the pet crematorium said to me. She told me that noises and slight movements from Cheeky's birdy cage are my little one's spirit. She said that he was happy and so loved by me and he is showing he cares about how I am now. I always feel him around and I speak to him.

Try to think - because it will be true - that when you celebrate your anniversay, which you have to even though you are so very upset, he will definitely be there with you, your husband and your other pets. He wouldn't want you to be sad at that time. Celebrate his little life too on the day.

I do so hope you and your husband begin to feel able to cope with the loss more and more as the days go by. Take care and if I may add, Happy Anniversary to you both.

gossamerwings