Time Heals? Options

[Jess]

Everyone keeps telling me that time heals and that I will feel better with time, but the weird thing is, I don't feel like time is passing. I don't feel like I'm moving farther away from my cat's death. Every morning when I wake up, I feel like it happened the day before. It's like I'm stuck. Every morning, it feels like a fresh wound to my heart. I don't feel like I'm ever going to get past this and enjoy life again.

[goldie]

Everyone keeps telling me that time heals and that I will feel better with time, but the weird thing is, I don't feel like time is passing. I don't feel like I'm moving farther away from my cat's death. Every morning when I wake up, I feel like it happened the day before. It's like I'm stuck. Every morning, it feels like a fresh wound to my heart. I don't feel like I'm ever going to get past this and enjoy life again.

I understand how you feel. We lost our dear cat, Spencer, one week ago today. Each day, I'm sad. I cry. I miss him so, so much. I know that, with time, there will be less "grief", but still sadness. Spencer was a wonderful companion. To me, its like losing a spouse or child - a faithful companion and soulmate. I have 4 books now addressing grieving for your pet but I don't have the inclination to read them.

All I can tell you is the "timing" for you, for this kitty you've lost, may take much longer than you expect. Everyone is different. And the grieving period for each cat may be different. It does help to talk to others with a similar passion - whether its here or another online source, a friend or coworker, or a local support group (check with your vet).

Your kitty would want you to grieve but also to continue to be happy. Honor him in as many ways as you can.