Loss Of Shellie Options

[tobin]

yesterday i had to have my dog, my friend, shellie put to sleep. she had an enlarged heart and the doctor said he had gone as far as he could with treatments. her rapid heartbeat and breathing problems were worse every couple of weeks. i knew the pain i would feel would be bad but i did not realize it would be this unbearable. i got shellie 8 years ago whenshe was 9 weeks old, got her for my wife...when i lost my wife, shellie and my mother became very close...when i lost my mother, shellie and i became even closer. i prayed that god would make her well as i know he could but that did not happen. now what should i think? i did not want to come home today knowing she would not be there. people will always say, it will get better with time but that is not very comforting. some say it is crazy to feel this way, after all it was only a dog BUT to me shellie was much much more than that to me. i have not felt this kind of agony since i lost my wife and quite honestly, i just don't know what to do or how to function. let my feelings show and to heck what people will think, or bottle it all up. i am usually a strong fella but the loss of my 4 legged, tail waggin little shellbell has put me down. talk about being depressed....what to do? anyone have any thoughts that could be of help to me, please..

[goliath]

talk about being depressed....what to do? anyone have any thoughts that could be of help to me, please..

Dear Tobin,

Please accept my deepest condolences on the recent loss of your Shellie. The unbearable pain you speak of is known only too well by all of us who have found this forum. Feelings of anguish, emptiness, and grief totally overwhelm us and we often wonder if there is any hope of surviving such a painful experience. My heart cries with yours.

You've found the perfect place to share all of your feelings. Here at LS we all walk together where we don't have to feel so alone. Friends are with you who truly understand. You've suffered mulitple losses of ones you love so much. Sharing your thoughts and feelings here can and will help you work through the depression you are living right now.

Keep coming and sharing with us as we all have a common bond that allows us to carry each other through these most difficult times. This newest journey you've begun is long. For some, posting pictures and telling stories helps ease the pain. The exchanges made with others in hearing comforting words also helps ease the pain. Though I wish there were a quick fix, there isn't one. We can only work through our grief, at our own pace, as there no way around it.

Shellie brought you so much comfort after the losses of your wife and mother. Rest assured Shellie is still with you, right by your side. Though her body has perished, her loving spirit remains very much alive and well. The bond you and Shellie share can never be broken in this world nor the next. Look for her.... for she is all around you. Trust that one day you will say hello to her again and never have to say goodbye again.

Sending you many hugs of comfort with love from my heart to yours,
Beth