The Loss Of My Farley Bear Options

[Farleybear]

I am new here and I hope this MB can help me get over my loss. I lost my beautiful english bulldog of 10 years two weeks ago. I am still suffering from this loss and still find it very difficult to talk about him.

Farley was diagnosed with heart disease a number of months ago and went in to congestive heart failure on February 1st. My fiance and I had to make the hardest decision of our life but realized that it was the kindest thing to do in the end. It was the hardest thing that we have ever had to do and continues to be. He passed away at around 630pm.. We love him very much and he is still so missed. Farley lived and long and wonderful life and he knew how loved he was. I know that he felt that love until the very end.

I need help moving on. We have decided to get a new puppy as our wedding gift to each other after our honeymoon, which will be at the end of June, but until then I need help getting over this loss.

I got Farley at 8 weeks old and he hasn't spent a night away from me in over 10 years. He came everywhere with me and that his presence is missing just killing me.

I need to know what to do in order to stop missing him so much and to make the heartache hurt less.

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[LoveThem]

Two weeks is a very short time. Having your boy for 10 years makes him such a part of your life that it is hard to lessen the grief in 2 weeks.

I am glad to hear you will be getting a puppy....I always found another distraction really helps. June does seem a ways away so all I can think of that might help is come here and write in your topic here, your thoughts and feelings as the days go by.

You posted a sweet picture of your boy...maybe you have others you can post. We always smile at pictures because they are when our best friends were happy and healthy...and it is a good memory to think about.

Telling stories of your boy....when you first spotted him as a puppy...the things he did that made you laugh. These are the precious moments we are always grateful for. When you visit here, you can't feel alone because we all have been through what you are going through.

It takes time to make the grief bearable but we never stop missing them because they are a part of our heart and we love them that much.

For me, what helps is knowing I made the right decision to give my boy peace at the time he needed it most. You did that for your boy also. We never want them to suffer. And when it is their time to leave us...a disease can come anytime..one that can't be cured. Knowing I was there and helped him the best I could...gives me a sense of peace. I couldn't save him but I could let him go and not suffer. I try to remember that.

I am so sorry for your loss. We are never prepared for it and we never truly get over it because we love and miss them so much...we will never forget them. There just comes a time when we get control back over our grief...cause when it is fresh....it controls us and exhausts us.

Write what makes you feel better to talk about. Sometimes that is the best therapy at the moment.

I wish you peace and healing....but it really does take time..and we have to work on remembering the good memories and replace the sad ones with those. But it still takes time.

Judy