I Lost My Best Friend Bun-bun.. Options

[george]

A few days ago we returned home after a few days to fine our family pet cat Bun-Bun having trouble breathing, we took her to the vet and quickly he said to put her down because of heart and lung problems. This pet was a family member for 17 yrs, a witness to the growth and development of our family, a family member who was alway there, always gave love alway sat quiet aside as we went on our daily duty's but was always there. I sweet face cat with a heart of gold. She touched our family so deeply and as left a hole in our lives. We regret doing what we did, maybe there was another way, maybe it was her time, maybe it did not have to happen. The entire family has been crying for 4 days, none of us can eat or sleep, or work, or go to school or work. We cant get over this. Maybe we made a mistake. I cant forgive myself for doing this to a family member. This was not our first pet or have we not been threw this type of thing before, it just happen so fast that I regret not giving it more time to develop. Our other pets all crying as much as the people in the family are. I cant bare to think of this as a mistake. I have tried to seek help for grief counseling but have not been able to find any.I am so pissed off at the vet and myself for jumping the gun. I don't know what to do..I failed my family. SOB why wasn't I given more time to think about this. Why can I have that day to do over ?

[ann]

Helllo again George, I hope you get what you need from the vet. I can't tell you enough how much I know exactly what you are going thru. Especially the whole trust thing. I just wanted to let you know that others have posted some very good articles in the Pet Resources and Article column. The 3rd one down "Making the Big Decision- Euthanization" had helped me alot. There is a part in it that mentions living in the moment; remembering how we felt and why we made the decision. Before I read that I couldn't understand why in my mind I kept going back to that last day. After reading that, I concluded it was a reminder of his suffering. Like you, I wish I could forget (but never will) the look in his eyes, the disapointment that I couldn't help him, the broken promise. Sometimes, I tell myself that those eyes instead said to me "thank you for taking away my pain mom", I'm sorry to see you so sad". This was not my first pet, but my first euthanization. Most likely it won't be the last, but it's hard, really, really hard. Please read the article and others alike, I hope it will help...Big Hug..Ann