I Lost My Best Friend Bun-bun.. Options

[george]

A few days ago we returned home after a few days to fine our family pet cat Bun-Bun having trouble breathing, we took her to the vet and quickly he said to put her down because of heart and lung problems. This pet was a family member for 17 yrs, a witness to the growth and development of our family, a family member who was alway there, always gave love alway sat quiet aside as we went on our daily duty's but was always there. I sweet face cat with a heart of gold. She touched our family so deeply and as left a hole in our lives. We regret doing what we did, maybe there was another way, maybe it was her time, maybe it did not have to happen. The entire family has been crying for 4 days, none of us can eat or sleep, or work, or go to school or work. We cant get over this. Maybe we made a mistake. I cant forgive myself for doing this to a family member. This was not our first pet or have we not been threw this type of thing before, it just happen so fast that I regret not giving it more time to develop. Our other pets all crying as much as the people in the family are. I cant bare to think of this as a mistake. I have tried to seek help for grief counseling but have not been able to find any.I am so pissed off at the vet and myself for jumping the gun. I don't know what to do..I failed my family. SOB why wasn't I given more time to think about this. Why can I have that day to do over ?

[Nemo's Mommy]

Dear George,

I know the questions you are going through in your mind, I think probably everyone here does. I see the pain in your words. The "what-if's" in the beginning are terrible. It's so hard to feel so helpless in that situation. I lost my cat Ren in August to heart disease (cardiomyopathy).

All I can tell you is that my Ren in end-state heart disease was on every heart med he could take, had his chest tapped the night before (they remove fluid from the lungs), and I STILL couldn't save him. I imagine your Bun-bun must have been in the end-state of heart disease, and that is why the vet made that call. The end stage of heart disease is pretty awful to watch. The vet must have made that call because he didn't want your dear Bun-bun to go through that. What you could do is call your vet and talk to them about Bun-bun, and ask him about his heart and why he made that call, ect. That might give some peace to you and your family. I know it's so hard to understand why things like this happen. We want with all our hearts and souls to have saved them, and yet still we lose them. They are so precious to us.

Just know your dear Bun-bun felt so very lucky to have such a loving family, and is still with you always. She will now watch over you and your family.

Hugs,
Ren, Zorro, and Nemo's Mom