It's Been A Year...but I Miss Her Like Yesterday Options

[Hailey-Comet]

Hi All! It's been a while since I posted but it's comforting to see familiar posters.
I helped my best friend cross the bridge 2 days after Christmas last year. I was afraid my kids would corralate her death with the holiday and ruin it for them forever. Well, they were fine this year but I was a mess. If it wasn't for them, I would have slept my way until New years.

It's weird...her Bday was in November, & I was sad but I bought gifts for my other fur pets and had a little "party" celebrating her life. But Xmas brought back all the memories of her agonizing health decline, her undefeatable spirit and the excruchiating pain of saying good-bye.

Do anniversaries ever get easier?

[LoveThem]

Hi, again. It is good to be able to come here when we need to. And we know there is always a welcome for us.

You asked about anniversaries. Anniversaries will always be a part of our lives. So far, I have not found them easier.

Here is part of what I wrote you last time:

Healing always takes time......and the pain will stop being overwhelming so often.

The pain can't disappear because our love for our special ones will never disappear and our wanting them back will never lessen in intensity.

I still feel the same way and I think that explains to me why anniversaries are always hard. As you said currently, all the sad memories came back. That is so very normal. We will never forget the last time they were with us and it is always a sad time.

That's why it is important to remember the warm, wonderful, healthy, happy memories and use them to make the sad ones leave. There are so many more good ones than sad.

We sometimes forget that the happy memories can also contain anniversaries of a happy time, a special happy occasion.

No matter what, we truly will love them and miss them forever and will always want to hold them and hug them.....again and again. We are glad they came into our lives.

Hugs and peace and healing,
Judy