It's Been A Year...but I Miss Her Like Yesterday Options

[Hailey-Comet]

Hi All! It's been a while since I posted but it's comforting to see familiar posters.
I helped my best friend cross the bridge 2 days after Christmas last year. I was afraid my kids would corralate her death with the holiday and ruin it for them forever. Well, they were fine this year but I was a mess. If it wasn't for them, I would have slept my way until New years.

It's weird...her Bday was in November, & I was sad but I bought gifts for my other fur pets and had a little "party" celebrating her life. But Xmas brought back all the memories of her agonizing health decline, her undefeatable spirit and the excruchiating pain of saying good-bye.

Do anniversaries ever get easier?

[von72]

Hello

Well I just found this site and hope I can help people and get comfort myself.

Our beautiful dog Jack died 3 years ago on 6th January. Its strange but Christmas is just as hard as this anniversary cos I keep remembering the wonderful day we had with him just before he died unexpectedly. I was down in the dumps because we were going through infertility problems and as usual it was Jack that made my day and cheered me up. I remember looking at him and saying "what would I do without you?"
about 2 weeks later I found out the answer to that, thought I would die of a broken heart.

That year I got pregnant and our baby arrived on 2nd January so the first anniversary wasn't so bad as I was so happy to have my baby and felt that Jack had sent him. That might sound a bit weird but within 2 weeks my baby would look at Jack's portrait and smile on a regular basis!
This year being the 3rd anniversary we decided to go to Jacks old park. This is something we have not done since he died. I thought I would be fine but as soon as I walked into the park I could see him running towards us, like he used to........so fast he would almost tumble over. Well I bawled again! Then we walked around the park and afterwards I felt very peaceful and was glad I did it. We had our new dog and child with us and that helped too.

I always feel sad too at Christmas as it is close to the date we lost him so I know where you are coming from. Its sometimes hard to feel the joy of it all when we remember what we went through. But I know that Jack would not want me to mope every year so I try and put it to the back of my mind and just be in the moment with the children in the family. I find this helps.

Just wanted to share so you know you are normal! I think we will miss them forever.