It's Been A Year...but I Miss Her Like Yesterday Options

[Hailey-Comet]

Hi All! It's been a while since I posted but it's comforting to see familiar posters.
I helped my best friend cross the bridge 2 days after Christmas last year. I was afraid my kids would corralate her death with the holiday and ruin it for them forever. Well, they were fine this year but I was a mess. If it wasn't for them, I would have slept my way until New years.

It's weird...her Bday was in November, & I was sad but I bought gifts for my other fur pets and had a little "party" celebrating her life. But Xmas brought back all the memories of her agonizing health decline, her undefeatable spirit and the excruchiating pain of saying good-bye.

Do anniversaries ever get easier?

[AngelCareOne]

Hi All! It's been a while since I posted but it's comforting to see familiar posters.
I helped my best friend cross the bridge 2 days after Christmas last year. I was afraid my kids would correlate her death with the holiday and ruin it for them forever. Well, they were fine this year but I was a mess. If it wasn't for them, I would have slept my way until New years.

It's weird...her Bday was in November, & I was sad but I bought gifts for my other fur pets and had a little "party" celebrating her life. But Xmas brought back all the memories of her agonizing health decline, her undefeatable spirit and the excruciating pain of saying good-bye.

Do anniversaries ever get easier?

Hi, Hailey-Comet. I'm so sorry you're having such a difficult time. Do anniversaries ever get any easier? That's a very good question. I sure hope they do get easier. The first Christmas after my loss was pretty smooth sailing because I was still in so much shock and denial. This second Christmas was much worse. I suppose that's because reality had set in.

My loss took place on 10/16/2007 so that first anniversary of losing Alex on 10/16/2008 was very tough. I sure do hear you about sleeping your way through the holidays ... And the anniversaries of our babies passing, too. Since I have no children and live alone, I could afford myself the luxury of collapsing and sleeping through those gosh awful times. Perhaps that's a blessing in disguise for me.

I'm so sorry you couldn't do that and instead relived all the memories of her agonizing health decline, her undefeatable spirit and the excruciating pain of saying good-bye. I simply cannot conceive of anything worse. Nothing happening in our lives can top the grief, sorrow and devastation of our fur kid and feather kid losses. Oh, other losses and terrible events may equal the devastation we feel about our fur kid losses ... Just not top them. My very deepest condolences to you, Dear One!

I pray it does get easier for you. Truly I do and am winging many loving Angels to soothe you and guide you through this most difficult gosh awful time you're having. Please know that you and your fur baby will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Big Comforting Hugs and Peace!!!

Always,
Dottie xoxoxox