My Dakota, My boy is gone. Options

[4theluvofdgs]

My dogs name was Dakota and he was a 10 year old Belgain Malinios. He was a huge presence in my family's life. We unexpectedly had to put Dakota to sleep yesterday morning due to Autoimmune Hymoletic Anemia and some other problems.He also had degenerative myelopothy and could not stand anymore. He had sugery to remove his spleen 2 weeks ago and was on many medicaitons. His anemia seemed to be getting better and we thought he was on the mend. Little did we know that he would take a horrible turn for the worse and no other medications would work.

We layed next to him as he died and was put out of his misery. It was the hardest thing Ive ever had to do. My family is heartbroken and we are in so much emotional pain. We are missing a part of our family. Ive only been morning his loss for since yesterday morning and people are already telling me that I need to get on with things. I just cant. I miss him so much and feel such desperation. I want to somehow go and get in the car and bring him back. Im angry and just want my boy back. I want to hold him and smell his fur and hold his face in my hands and I cant. This pain is unbearable and so much worse than I ever thought it would be.

Please someone tell me that it gets easier.

[j4lorn]

Hello 4theluvofdgs,

On August 24th I had to put my boy down too in a sudden manner, I know how awful that is. The first day was awful, I felt like my heart was literally shattered and broken. Then I cried. Now the pain is, well, not less but it's different -- a level of acceptance has moved in. I still cry a couple of times a week and I can make myself cry in about 30 seconds if I let myself dwell on it.

DJ is right, NO ONE has the right to tell you to get over it, and if they don't love animals like we do, it is their great loss.

When my Jake first died, I did alot of web searching, and I did come across a Christian oriented page which discussed exactly the question you asked. I will see if I can find it again and post the link.

Meantime, here is a prayer I found on a Christian page where they had a whole service for a deceased pet. I can find that link again for you too, if you would like. I had put in my dogs name, Jake.

Most merciful God, we return to you Jake, a creature of your own making and your gift into our lives. We praise you for his beauty and strength, for his grace and power; we thank you for his faithful companionship in our joys and sorrows; and we bless you for the time during which you entrusted him into our care. Receive now Jake back into the arms of your everlasting love, 0 Giver of life, through whose Son our Savior Jesus Christ all that is lost to death is restored to life, and in whose Name we pray. Amen.