Don't Know Which End Is Up, feeling like a sinking ship Options

[ann]

Hi All, Not sure where to post this or even if I should. But I need to vent a little I guess. Today I decided to stop by the PetCo store. They were having a feline rescue adotion program going on. Not that I was going to, just wanted to see how I felt about seeing some kitties. Didn't do well. Walked out of the store bawling, and continued all the way down Rt 114 in traffic. Missing my Arthur so BADLY!!. Well, I told Dave about it. He said (sarcasticlly) Did you start crying? Of course, I said. I said I guess I'm not ready yet. He shook his head. I said what does that mean, you don't want another cat? He said absolutely not, Arthur dying was too heartbreaking and I don't ever want to go thru that again. Not that it surprises me. Maybe in time he'll feel differently. I said there was a kitten there that reminded me of Arthur and he was all inquisitive about him.....Earlier in the day I noticed Piper had climbed the tree and gotten onto the garage roof and wouldn't come down. I'd hope she come down on her own. My 85 yr old Father who lives with me got up on the ladder, onto the roof and got her down. This is a man who trips on his own feet.(I left for work and didn't see it) He never wanted Piper and was pushing my brother to take her back. They didn't want her anymore and dumped her on us(like they do with a lot of their stuff) anyways, he's so convinced she got chased by a fox(one chased her up a tree last year)that now he wants to get rid of her too. I like the cat. I think she was curious about the gutters we had put on the other day. I don't want to leave her in the house all day, I don't want him climbing ladders, and most of all I don't want to get rid of her. I'm a cat lover that can't have or enjoy them without someone around me complaining. I'm just very distraught right now. No one around me is taking any consideration of how I'm feeling right now and it's pissing me off. I ALAWYS accomodate everyone even if I don't like it just to keep the peace. I'v always been that way. The minute I put my foot down I get crap from people. I really didn't need Piper's little episode today. She's not a smart cat and probably will do it again. Unless I tell him to get someone down here to cut the tree. Maybe I'll suggest that.. sorry people. I'm just so tired of being depressed and heartbroken and faking it all day. No resposnse needed just needed to vent a little(well alot)..Thanks.. Ann

[Furkidlets' Mom]

Jon, I just have to quickly say a big THANK YOU for telling us that second part especially. I, too, have divorced myself from so many uncaring types, and while I wish I could say I've exchanged them for as many caring ones, I can't. I've really only picked up two new friends who care the same way I do, so it IS lonely, even though, like you, I don't miss these particular people. But I'm still with you on the "to hell with them" idea, regardless, and it's just good to know someone else has done the same thing and is sticking to their guns about it.

On the up-side, I'm making more FELINE girlfriends every few months, and they're way more fun than these other people were anyway!

[Jon730]

Jon, I just have to quickly say a big THANK YOU for telling us that second part especially. I, too, have divorced myself from so many uncaring types, and while I wish I could say I've exchanged them for as many caring ones, I can't. I've really only picked up two new friends who care the same way I do, so it IS lonely, even though, like you, I don't miss these particular people. But I'm still with you on the "to hell with them" idea, regardless, and it's just good to know someone else has done the same thing and is sticking to their guns about it.

On the up-side, I'm making more FELINE girlfriends every few months, and they're way more fun than these other people were anyway!

There are, what..8 billion humans on Earth? How many of them would you like to have in your home, after reading a History book?
The ONLY unconditional love you will really get is from an animal. We only dream of getting that from a human. If the people around you could unconditionally love you, they would not put conditions on whether or not you could have an animal friend.

Let's think back to everyone we have known. Have you EVER met someone who said they hated dogs or cats, who did not eventually reveal defects in personality or character?

And animals can read human character-Maybe this is why bad people hate them.
Two years ago, a businessman wanted to buy the rights to an invention of mine. He flew up here for the meeting. Molly, the feral-born ghost cat did not like strangers, and was rarely seen by my friends.
So..the business man was sitting in my living room as we were discussing the purchase. I of course was being cautious and had the normal reservations. Molly came out, and climbed up on the couch and curled up in his lap.
SOLD. And the deal has worked out very well for both parties.

So, as to not replacing the haters with good people....Well, Quality trumps Quantity.

Want proof? Pretend you are Jane Goodall, examining a tribe of lower primates.
Now, observe a singles club at Closing Time.
QED.

[ann]

Hi Jon, great &%^ogy and so true. Yes, it's that unconditonal love they give that's so darn special. A little scratch behind the ear and you've made a friend for life. They never judge, or speak down to you, or stab than infamous knife in your back the minute you turn around. I like the idea of less humans in the house and more animals. I still have several people ask me if I've gotten or am getting another cat. I have explained over and over why not at this time. I sometimes think they just want to get a rise out of me. Next time I'm just going to say I don't want another cat, I want my Arthur back. That should shut them up, unless, they are truely rude and have something to say to that. I really hope Dave can bend. One of the few humans I love dearly. He lost his little buddy and his Dad in a 2mo span, so I don't want to push. I now have Piper and she's a good cat, but she's not filling the void I need. I am growing fond of her though. I wish she was more affectionate. I think that's 'cuz of her upbringing in my brother's family, they didn't pay any attention to her. Losing him has hit me harder than I antisipated..Ann