Zita Gone, Now Ziggy, 3 Cats lost in two years Options

[Zita'sMom]

I posted in October about losing my sweet Zita. At the end of December I adopted Ziggy who I swear was related to Zita. She had the biggest healing purr I have ever heard from a cat. She wasn't Zita but she was a very special kitty and was so appreciative and happy in our home.

On Saturday she came home after 5 p.m. with wounds to her abdomen. I knew it was serious. She went to the emergency vet. Over the last 5 days we spent about $1300 on vet care.

We thought she was going to pull through but this morning at 6 a.m. she let out a distressed sound and stopped breathing. I reached into her crate, but she had left me.

The vet is pretty certain she was shot by an air gun. People can be so evil and cruel.

I cannot believe what has happened. She loved her "drippy water" from the sink and I will miss her leading me there and her huge gigantic purr.

My "helper" cat who helped me to deal with my loss of Zita is now gone... Life is not fair.

My heart is broken.

Jan.

[AngelCareOne]

Hi, Jan! Hey, you're catching on. There's a lot I haven't told you but, if you wish, will explain a little bit in a PM to you as to how one like myself "appears" to be far stronger than many. Gee, I've proven to myself that I am stronger than most but I don't share why because I simply CANNOT CANNOT CANNOT bear to be pitied. Oh, something like, "Wow, what a bummer, Gal. Oy Vey!" That suits me just fine. But when people find out about all the horrors I've experienced, witnessed and so on then go into their, "OMG!!! You poor thing! I feel so SORRY SORRY SORRY for you and I can't believe you survived! OMG! OMG! OMG!!!" You get the picture. I don't even cope that well with being given sympathy unless it's in a "What a Bummer" type fashion.

BUT! I will tell you why and give you specific true experiences that have made me STRONG!!! However, ya can't do not pity stuff or I'll have to smack ya silly.

Oh, the "EFT" works amazingly well for me and I could feel relief from the very first time I tried it so I just had to share with everyone here. I sure hope to gosh it helps them as much as it helps me.

You asked me if I "feel a zest for life." I'm laughing my arse off over here which is most certainly inappropriate to say the least. LOL! And I'll tell you why if you wish to know.

Jan, if I hear one more time, "Hey, he was a bird. Just a freaking bird. There are millions of them out there for pity's sake. Just get another one and cut out this nonsense. You've got to get over this, yada, yada, yada ..." If I hear that one more time, I think I'll spit! See? I know what you're talking about, Hon. By the way, I lost two husbands due to death but the one before Kenny was a demon spawn from Hades. OH My Gosh!!! I am terrible to say that! LOL! But, it is true and I even grieved horribly for about one full year about his ... Oh, you don't want to know how he died. Eeekkk!

Finally, I woke one morning and asked myself why the heck am I screaming and crying my eyes out about Simon dying when he was Lucifer reincarnated. Oh My Gosh! There I go again. Hahaha! That was the last day I felt any grief for him.

This is turning into a novel so I'll try my best to sum it up. When a person experiences horror after horror, tragedy after tragedy and yada, yada, yada ... It's a well known phenomenon that a certain "type" of person does not "feel/perceive" the same emotions as those who haven't been through as much. So, I guess you could say that I am blessed! If you REALLY want to know more of the specifics and how that makes someone like myself actually perceive HORRORS in a different manner, please let me know and I'll shoot off a PM to you.

What you're going through now with Ziggy and ... It is so unspeakably unbearable for you and I want so desperately to help you learn how cope just a little bit better. SO MUCH PAIN!!! I can feel your unbearable PAIN, ANGUISH, DEVASTATION and MORE!!!

Many Blessings and Angels to Hold You Close brining you Comfort, Peace, FAITH AND HOPE!!!

Love you to bits!

Your Pal Always,
Dottie xoxoxox

[Zita'sMom]

Hi, Jan! Hey, you're catching on. There's a lot I haven't told you but, if you wish, will explain a little bit in a PM to you as to how one like myself "appears" to be far stronger than many. Gee, I've proven to myself that I am stronger than most but I don't share why because I simply CANNOT CANNOT CANNOT bear to be pitied. Oh, something like, "Wow, what a bummer, Gal. Oy Vey!" That suits me just fine. But when people find out about all the horrors I've experienced, witnessed and so on then go into their, "OMG!!! You poor thing! I feel so SORRY SORRY SORRY for you and I can't believe you survived! OMG! OMG! OMG!!!" You get the picture. I don't even cope that well with being given sympathy unless it's in a "What a Bummer" type fashion.

Hello Dottie

I think feeling "sorry" for someone comes off like one upmanship (maybe not on purpose but...). It's like if you feel "sorry" you see the person as weaker than you in some way. It is empathy that I think draws people together, not pity...

I did read your story about Alex (beause my imagination can be more disturbing than the truth sometimes!) and I do feel great empathy for you! Massive!

And as it helps you to reach others, it also helps others here to reach out to you. I truly, truly wish and pray that you find out the real truth about what happened to Alex. I understand the not knowing, as this is what I went through with Zita - however, I am not aware of any remorseless type people involved with her disappearance. But now I don't really know after what happened to Ziggy. The pain of not knowing, for me, has been so intense! Although I feel Zita is in spirit, I never got a chance to say goodbye in the physical. I am angry, in different ways about the loss of Ziggy - I did, did however get the chance to tell her how I loved her so, so much and how sorry I was that this happened. She just purred and I know she understood. It doesn't make the pain of loss any easier, but I didn't even have that chance with Zita.

The people that don't understand my feelings said things like "It's been a couple of weeks since Zita's been gone, (why is it bothering you)", or recently "You did talk about Zita an awful lot" or just that I needed to let it go. I guess other people cope in different ways, but if a child or spouse or relative was missing, no-one (unless they were completely out to lunch) would ever say things like that. I do realize also that resistance of what's happened makes it hard to find peace, and somehow we have to find a kind of peace in not knowing. Easier said than done though!

I will have to work out how PM works on here, but I would love to find out more about how you've learned to be so strong.

Maybe we need an "Unsolved Mysteries" program for pets!! What about a group email with a description / photo of Alex asking people to send it on and to contact you if anyone has information? Group emails can go pretty far in today's world. Are there bird associations you could contact in case Alex was sold?

My thoughts and prayers are with you and with Alex, hoping you find peace and harmony both.

take care

Jan.