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my cat Funky died at the vet yesterday while coming out of anathesia from a very routine procedure, he was just over a year old. i didnt want to take him to the vet, but his inner ear had been infected for a while (a polyp, we were to find out yesterday) and the therapy needed to be done. knowing this was a common procedure, i didnt think much about it. when i heard the vet (my ex-wife) crying on the other end, my first thoughts were that one of my kids was in trouble. then she said the words no owner wants to hear: your pet died.

i lost it pretty hard yesterday, who says men dont cry? i did for hours in bed while listening to the rain and thunder outside. he was a sturdy cat, healthy in every other way besides that damn ear. he and i had a good play session the night prior to the procedure, but in the morning i unceremoniously picked him up and stuffed him into the carrier for his final ride. if i would have known i would not see him again, i would have squeezed him til he squeaked. but that was not the case, and i didnt have a chance to say goodbye. thats what hurts the most.

i finally dragged myself out of bed to half eat some dinner. then turned on the tv to block out the sadness when, wouldnt you know, the national ASPCA commercial with sara mclaughlin singing 'in the arms of an angel' came on. well dear friend, i lost it again.

today, i am cried out. the shock has subsided but the pain still remains. i would love to stay in bed with the covers pulled over my head again today, but work and the world has different plans for me. the house already feels empty, tho the kitty was small he was part of my every day routines. i missed him chasing me down the stairs to my office to get fed this morrning. so sad. worst part yet to come, i have to face telling my daughter on friday evening when i pick her up from a week at camp. she loved the little guy, its not going to be pretty.

so though i may not respond to very many posts anymore, seeing the pain day after day has wore me thin, i do understand how you feel. i have been through the pain, and now go through the pain again.

RIP Funkyman, your time came much too soon.

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When I hear something like this it just makes me want to scream and curse..instead I am sitting here crying as I type.

I am so very very sorry, Mark. This is just awful...one year old...routine procedure....I don't know if fate can get any crueler than that. I don't understand what happened. I have read in the past of reactions to anesthetics..I don't know if that was it. He must have been under an anesthesia before to be neutered. What was different? Can this be avoided in the future? Should everyone be scared to do..routine procedures?

Well, you do know so well how writing can help heal. This pain is just too intense and shocking right now. I am glad to hear you letting out as much as you can, whether by tears or whatever works.

You said: RIP Funkyman, your time came much too soon.


Truer words were never spoken.

Hugs and tears, Mark, and there are many cybershoulders here to lean on.

It just isn't right...it just should not have happened...

It is bad enough going to the vet knowing a final decision has been made and we know it is goodbye but shocks like this are the most unfair of all.....our furbabies do not deserve such a happening and neither do we. Why is such cruelty allowed in life?

Take Care, Mark, and I know you know very well this forum you created in memory of a special one...is still here to help you when you need it.

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RIP Funkyman, your time came much too soon.
there are many cybershoulders here to lean on.

this forum you created in memory of a special one...is still here to help you when you need it.

i am so very sorry
Eva