I Loved My Sissy Cat Options

[sissycat]

I am so glad I found this site. I have cried and cried over the loss of my best friend---Sissy Cat.
I had her for 2 years and 5 days. Her mother was a stray and she had a litter of 3 kittens all girls. Well I had to keep all 4 of them. All were fixed. So have had her family a while. But this one became my really good friend. How long does it take for the pain to go away. Right now it doesn't seem like it ever will. It has only been a few days. (June 5, 2008)
It doesn't help that I partially blame myself for her death. I usually let all the cats outside for a bit at 6 a.m. and let them back in before going to work. This perticular morning my husband herd a cat meowing and thought I had left one outside. I got up to look and it was a stray at my window. It was 4 a.m. and of course they thought it was time to go outside. I let them out early and they were outside for a longer time. I went out to find my precious Sissy had been hit by a car. She had made it back to my driveway and one of the other cats was setting by her side. I was devastated. All kinds of what ifs and whys and could haves and should haves still run through my head.
I miss her terribly!!!!!! She had slept in my bed everynight for almost two years. She would meow at the food bowl even if there was food in it. All she wanted was a few fresh peices droped on top and she would eat. She would only drink out of a cup on the bathroom sink. She would lick my hand when we went to bed at night to let me know she cared. She would be in my lap when it stormed because she was scared.
Maybe I get too attached to my pets. Sissy especially. I loved her so Much!!!!!! I have made pictures of her to put on my computer desk and home and at my work.
I catch myself talking to her at her grave side and sometimes when I look at her pictures. Am I crazy? Does anyone else do these things. I even went and brushed up her fur off the end of my bed and put it in a baggy. I planted purple mums on her grave today and placed a little cross with her name on it there.
I still have 4 cats, but we are not close like me and Sissy were. I am heart broken how do I heal. Will my crying ever stop? I just don't know how i will ever be right again. I can't eat very much cause my stomache stays in knots and I am not sleeping very well. Thank You for listening to my story of Sissy Cat..
SISSY I LOVE YOU AND MISS YOU SO MUCH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[oliver's mama]

I catch myself talking to her at her grave side and sometimes when I look at her pictures. Am I crazy? Does anyone else do these things. I even went and brushed up her fur off the end of my bed and put it in a baggy.

I sincerely hope you aren't, because that would make me pretty wacky. I talk to my Oliver all the time, mostly I cry and tell him how much I miss and love him. Two days ago, I brought out his urn from my bedroom and placed it on the couch where he sat and when I left, I wrapped a t-shirt around it. We all do things like this in grief, I still haven't vacuumed up his fur and he passed away on May 6.

How long does it take for the pain to go away. Right now it doesn't seem like it ever will. It has only been a few days.

I suppose healing time is different, even for the same person depending on life and the bond. I lost my 2 year old Pumpkin 10 years ago to FLV. The devastation I felt lasted about a month but it was so awful it could not possibly sustain itself. I had never lost anyone, pet or otherwise, super close to me before him, so that was a first. Deep down, I knew when I discovered his illness as a kitten that I would lose him someday to it but I didn't want to accept it. This time, I had Oliver 10 years longer and his passing came out of the blue, on Friday he was fine, by Tuesday morning he was gone. I wish I could be of more comfort on here regarding the future like some others. For me it has been 5 weeks and while the raw fresh agony has subsided and I understand he's gone (although some moments I still can't believe it), the vast ache of missing someone so loving and loved is constant. I too fear it will always be with me. Visit here often, and hugs and peace to you in your time of grief, myself and many others are right there with you.

Oliver's mama (Sarah)