So Sad!, Loss of my friend Options

[Victoria]

Hello all
I just lost my best friend on Sunday. He was just short of his 15th birthday. He had been sick for about 2 months. I tryed everything to help but nothing did. His name was J-dog, he was a very speical dog a Jack Russell. This is the hardest thing I've had to do. I'm having a really bad day today. I have two other dogs another JRT she is almost 13, and a Lab who is 13. What a crew! Both of my other dogs are joining me in my grief. I'm worried about my Lab he too is just hanging on to life by a thread. I don't know how I will deal with back to back grief like this. The Lab is my husbands dog, J-dog was mine and my other JRT is both of ours. She is having a hard time dealing with Jays death. I try not to cry around her, but it hard because she won't let me out of her sight. I quess I need some encouragement on how to deal with her. Gosh I miss my buddie so much....

[LoveThem]

I know how you feel when you talk about...others lives continue as normal....Christmas doesn't feel right...and the pain. I wish I could tell you it would go away soon but I can't..it takes time to heal and it can seem so slow. It is good to think about the good memories and the years you had him. I had my Little Guy for just over 16 years and those were wonderful times. I feel fortunate cause he is the first special friend I was allowed to keep that long before the illness was sent to take him away.

Cry? I can cry so very easily thinking about him. I wish I could ease your pain but that comes from within..when we find the strength to push it aside. But one of the moms here said it so well...I pass it on when I remember to: She said: The pain of losing him will never ever be bigger than the joy of knowing him. The pain is great but I would not trade having my boy to avoid pain 16 years later. I miss him terribly...just like you miss your boy. I guess some healing comes when we force ourselves to accept they are not with us anymore......but that is so hard to do.

I know looking at my baby's pictures knowing he was happy, sassy, and healthy in them helps me. At least I can look at him and remember his endearing qualities.
That's why I put 2 threads of pictures in the Tributes Section. Looking at him has helped others just as looking at pictures of their babies has made me smile too. We all share the same pain and the sharing doesn't lessen its intensity but there is something about knowing you are not alone with such a pain and others understand that really helps..especially as you said..the outside world just goes on as if our lives were still normal, when they are not. Take Care....and hug your other 2. You mention Goose is not in the best health..well that gets double hugs. All 3 of my babies were related...It is the first time I had all the same age...maybe it is better to space a few years in between so there is a better chance there will be more time to heal after the loss of one of them....I don't know the answers but writing is a way to ignore the pain for a moment in time. Keep posting...I think it will help you.