So Sad!, Loss of my friend Options

[Victoria]

Hello all
I just lost my best friend on Sunday. He was just short of his 15th birthday. He had been sick for about 2 months. I tryed everything to help but nothing did. His name was J-dog, he was a very speical dog a Jack Russell. This is the hardest thing I've had to do. I'm having a really bad day today. I have two other dogs another JRT she is almost 13, and a Lab who is 13. What a crew! Both of my other dogs are joining me in my grief. I'm worried about my Lab he too is just hanging on to life by a thread. I don't know how I will deal with back to back grief like this. The Lab is my husbands dog, J-dog was mine and my other JRT is both of ours. She is having a hard time dealing with Jays death. I try not to cry around her, but it hard because she won't let me out of her sight. I quess I need some encouragement on how to deal with her. Gosh I miss my buddie so much....

[annie's mommy]

Dear Victoria,

It does seem like some people tolerate our sadness for such a short time. And some (many) seem to tire hearing about our loss and how badly we feel. I am feeling that way too. I know it is one day at a time, but I too, can only "pretend" or "try" for a few hours at a time, and then I'm back to full-fledged sorrow and in need of the same support I needed on day one. I don't know what to do about it. I'm seeking books on grief support and more info on the afterlife to survive this awful time. I would like a pet-loss support group to attend in person I think. Where everyone in attendance was grieving and providing support for each other for as long as we all needed it. (Like this forum, only "in person".) I might call my vet's office to see if they know of a local support group. Maybe you could try it too. Of course, that still doesn't resolve the issue of dealing with the others you deal with daily (even family members) who are not grieving to the extent you are or who have moved on. I feel the same as you.

Annie's mommy