So Sad!, Loss of my friend Options

[Victoria]

Hello all
I just lost my best friend on Sunday. He was just short of his 15th birthday. He had been sick for about 2 months. I tryed everything to help but nothing did. His name was J-dog, he was a very speical dog a Jack Russell. This is the hardest thing I've had to do. I'm having a really bad day today. I have two other dogs another JRT she is almost 13, and a Lab who is 13. What a crew! Both of my other dogs are joining me in my grief. I'm worried about my Lab he too is just hanging on to life by a thread. I don't know how I will deal with back to back grief like this. The Lab is my husbands dog, J-dog was mine and my other JRT is both of ours. She is having a hard time dealing with Jays death. I try not to cry around her, but it hard because she won't let me out of her sight. I quess I need some encouragement on how to deal with her. Gosh I miss my buddie so much....

[forduffy]

Hi Victoria,
Welcome to this site. I am so sorry about the loss of J-Dog. It is so hard and frustrating to lose our babies. He sounded like he was a wonderful, one of a kind little dog who brought you so much joy. I know it's fresh right now but you will begin to heal.

Like the others who posted here, I think that it would probably be best if you cry in front of your other dogs. They know when something is wrong and they can see through our efforts to mask whatever we feel. You have each other and sometimes healing comes from sharing the same sorrow with the ones you love. I lost my dog, Duffy in September. My mother had become very attached to him and I found that being with her, crying with her, (despite the fact that we might get each other upset), was extremely cathartic. We had the same empathy with each other and there was really no one else who felt it to the extreme that we did. You dogs may find comfort in that. They are hurting too.

Hugs to you, your husband and your babies. I am so sorry.