Just Lost My Cat..., My 19 year old cat was hit by a car Options

[cfholden]

Our much cherished 19 year old Chris Craft the cat didn't come home last Saturday night, or Sunday morning. My husband went looking for him and found him, apparently having been hit by a car, and left in a dumpster. My husband came home screaming, and in shock. He won't describe to me exactly what he saw. But says it was bad. We both can't stop the crying and I've never felt such pain. I've watched both my parents die before my eyes, but this feels worse. I had time to prepare for my parents (years actually) .and although I cried for them, this pain is different. More intense, and the emptiness in our home without our cat is unbelievable. I don't want to go home. I feel such pain for my husband who had to find him. I keep reliving the moment he came home screaming and crying, and then I break into tears.
I will miss my little guy so much. Sunday was the worst day of my life.

[radgirl]

I really felt for you when I read your post, I can't imagine the shock you both must feel. I am very sorry...........I know waht you mean about not wanting to go home. We lost our 18 year old cat one year ago Tuesday. He was our first baby, as I was 7 months pregnant at the time. I truly know waht you are going through about not wanting to be home.....we both cried for a month straight and ended up going on a weekend trip over New Year's to try to change our environment.

We didn't have the tragic ending you did though with an accident. In that sense I fell your pain even deeper. It angers me that someone would leave Chris Craft in a dumpster......unbelieveable!! and your poor husband, I can't imagine the trauma he must be experiencing.

I do offer some hope for you. Christmas will be very difficult, you may want to consider going out of town. The first 3-4 months are extreme grief, but it does get better. I promise you you won't feel this way forever although it may seem that way today.

I also know waht you mean about your parents dying but having more feelings about this tragic accident with your cat. I loved my grandma very much but when she died I cried for about two weeks and was able to move on rather quickly. With Misty dying this time last year I cried until the end of May.

And like you I didn;t want to be home everything reminded me of him. I think it is because our pets were part of our immediate household and the unconditional love given in return is priceless.

Please hang in there and know that you aren't alone. This board can be agreat resource over the next several months.

I hope this helps know that you won't be in this extreme pain forever. Misty and I were inseparable and by June I was starting to head uphill with the grief. Both my husband and I have cried here and there over the last six months, but sometiems a month goes by without any pain.

We feel Misty sent us our new cat, magic, who showed up this summer on our back porch and needed a home. We also know Misty is protecting our daughter from above. I can tell you that having magic has helped us tremendously, so maybe a new furry friend in the future may help. Not that anyone can repalce Chris Craft, but you and your husband sound like such great parents another animal could highly benefit from such a loving home.

Peace and I'll be thinking of you. Please keep us updated on how you are doing.

Misty's Mama