I'm Losing My Mind Not Knowing, if my cat is dead or alive Options

[paris]

Hi.

I originally posted in Lost/Missing, but this forum is much more active and I'm moving towards thiking now that my cat, Bennett, is dead.

Bennett, has been missing now 6 weeks. He is an outdoor cat, able to survive, but has never been gone this long. The stress and strain of not knowing is taking its toll on me. In a strange way, I envy those people whose cats have died. I'm sorry to be morose, but at least then you can begin the mourning process. I can not get past the denial stage. It's like each day having to go through the initial stage of 'my cat is gone'.

Even if I try to believe "OK, just accept it; he's not coming back" I can not convince myself. I hear stories of cats coming back or being found after long periods of time, so I'm torn between hope and despair.

[Mistletoe]

I hope that you will find your kitty soon--but I do know how you feel as we have acquired outside cats from time to time---they had been with us long enough for us to form an attachment--and then the day comes when you don't see them--and in your mind you imagine all kinds of things--but I always imagined that someone found them and took them in and that's why they didn't come around anymore.

We don't keep our cats outside--and I am not saying that's what everyone should do--

So hold on to the thought--that he is with other kitties and that he is well--I will wish for you--with all my heart--that he comes home to you--soon!!!!