Re: Words That Hurt - For Real Options

[Guest_la77_*]

I am starting this thread even though it is related to an existing controversial post. I want people to see it here, especially the people who run this site. They may delete it at any time they see fit.

I don't call my animals "furbabies". I don't believe in the "Rainbow Bridge". I don't count the number of hours it's been since my dog died, nor do have the att*itude that I will never love another as I did her. However, I tolerate all the opinions and att*itudes of the people here, because the intent of the site is to help each through a difficult time. I accept with grat*itude all expressions of sympathy.

I do believe in "closure". I do believe in a "better place", although I do not know if I will see my dog there. I want to heal, and I need the positive input of others to do so. I have my own mind and choose to accept the ideas that I agree with and dismiss those that I do not.

This IS the place where people should be able to express their feelings. However, this should not be the place where you express your feelings with total disregard for others who may be reading them. This is a place for healing. Some people NEED to believe that there's a "better place." Some people WANT "closure." You can disagree, but don't blow people away with inflammatory statements. It riles people up. It hurts people.

I will not be returning to this site, and I would not recommend it to others that need healing. It is much too negative to be conducive to that. Many of you should consider therapy. I say that with love and sincerity.

Lisa

[k9pal]

I had mixed emotions by the original post that got some people upset. I understood how those "catch phases" could hurt people. But, at the same time comments made about the catch phases also hurt people. All I know for possitive is that the original poster was extremly helpful to me during my greatest period of grief and for that reason I'm sure he didn't mean to hurt anyone. To those of you who were offended You also gave me support and for that I thank you. I welcome any support everyone is willing to give and feel free to use the catch phases because if that is how you feel,or believe than that's how I take it as. I would also like to add that all of us here are in emotion pain and sometimes that pain shows its self through anger. Sometimes I think that anger shows in our post. So can we all please just move on and forgive and forget. Let us concentrate on to the reason that we are all here. To try and heal our own and others pain.