Re: Words That Hurt - For Real Options

[Guest_la77_*]

I am starting this thread even though it is related to an existing controversial post. I want people to see it here, especially the people who run this site. They may delete it at any time they see fit.

I don't call my animals "furbabies". I don't believe in the "Rainbow Bridge". I don't count the number of hours it's been since my dog died, nor do have the att*itude that I will never love another as I did her. However, I tolerate all the opinions and att*itudes of the people here, because the intent of the site is to help each through a difficult time. I accept with grat*itude all expressions of sympathy.

I do believe in "closure". I do believe in a "better place", although I do not know if I will see my dog there. I want to heal, and I need the positive input of others to do so. I have my own mind and choose to accept the ideas that I agree with and dismiss those that I do not.

This IS the place where people should be able to express their feelings. However, this should not be the place where you express your feelings with total disregard for others who may be reading them. This is a place for healing. Some people NEED to believe that there's a "better place." Some people WANT "closure." You can disagree, but don't blow people away with inflammatory statements. It riles people up. It hurts people.

I will not be returning to this site, and I would not recommend it to others that need healing. It is much too negative to be conducive to that. Many of you should consider therapy. I say that with love and sincerity.

Lisa

[KaseysMom]

I am still a bit new to this place, but I am grateful everyday that I found this spot, and find it I did, for those of us that really have no support in our lives this place is a total life saver. I am here everyday sometimes just reading more often writeing and crying my heart out and trying to heal abit. I am sorry I missed the original post but this place is wonderful! Despite the hurt all are going through they seem truly concerned for others and its so nice to see, I do not see people reaching out to others as they do here, and as long as I never hear, It was just a ????...I know that folks are just trying to help and I would like to thank you all for sharing and for caring for others including me...
Carolyn