Re: Words That Hurt - For Real Options

[Guest_la77_*]

I am starting this thread even though it is related to an existing controversial post. I want people to see it here, especially the people who run this site. They may delete it at any time they see fit.

I don't call my animals "furbabies". I don't believe in the "Rainbow Bridge". I don't count the number of hours it's been since my dog died, nor do have the att*itude that I will never love another as I did her. However, I tolerate all the opinions and att*itudes of the people here, because the intent of the site is to help each through a difficult time. I accept with grat*itude all expressions of sympathy.

I do believe in "closure". I do believe in a "better place", although I do not know if I will see my dog there. I want to heal, and I need the positive input of others to do so. I have my own mind and choose to accept the ideas that I agree with and dismiss those that I do not.

This IS the place where people should be able to express their feelings. However, this should not be the place where you express your feelings with total disregard for others who may be reading them. This is a place for healing. Some people NEED to believe that there's a "better place." Some people WANT "closure." You can disagree, but don't blow people away with inflammatory statements. It riles people up. It hurts people.

I will not be returning to this site, and I would not recommend it to others that need healing. It is much too negative to be conducive to that. Many of you should consider therapy. I say that with love and sincerity.

Lisa

[bluemoon]

Ohh dear, all I can say is thank god for this site, if it wasnt for the caring thoughts, and understanding, I would have found it much harder to cope with my loss. I have a friend whos is going through a bad time with his cat (she has cancer) I have told him about this site, and I think he will join.
I may not have been as active as most, It has taken me along time to come to terms with losing my Gizzy, I am slowly getting better, and I am now fully ready to offer help and understanding to all that need it here.
In my case I didnt have anyone else to understand me the way everyone on here has. I WILL be returning and I WILL be recommending to others.
Thanks to ALL of you.
Ruth xx