Am I Wrong To Compare?, death of a human to a furry freind Options

[k9pal]

I was just on the post written by meowltd about a remark made to her by a friend. Reading that post was like throwing wood on a already burning fire. Let me start by summarizing a story. A friend of mine lost her husband tragically due to an accident a year ago. I was there for her constantly and continuously through out. Most of the closest people to her work during the day except me. I was her constant companion, her sympathetic shoulder to cry on. I know being alone is know good when you lose someone close. That is when your mind and heart turn on you and you sink deeper end deeper into depression. She was so depressed and she didn't want to be alone, nor did I want her to be so we spent alot of time together. I didn't mind I know I helped her through one of the toughest times in her life. But know I'm resentful. I lost my furbaby and where is she? Where is the support? Ya, she called me once or twice while he was sick. She called me on the worst day of my life. The same day that I had to bring my baby to the vet, his last day. Before I found someone to help me. I told her how I couldn't get into contact with my sister, how she was suppose to help me bring my dog to the vet. I can't get Max to the vet by myself he's to heavy, He won't go outside and I can't carry him by myself I told her. She said she would help but bla..,bla.., bla..! Thank God my sister called me back. My friend called me after Max was gone to say she was sorry and I know that she was sincere but I don't think she sympathizes with me. Like my grief is minimum compared to hers. I'm depressed, I feel empty, I feel like my heart has been ripped out of me, I'm going through the worse grief of my life. Occurances of every day activities remind me of my baby and make me miss him more and more. Why is his death and the emotions I feel any different from lossing a human. Why because he was a animal ? Love is love, and I loved him. He's gone and I'm grieving and nobody is there for me. That's the difference when you lose a human you have so much support, when you lose a furbaby you don't. I know I shouldn't compare the death of her husband with my furbaby. I'm just trying to sort through my feelings. I just wish that she would of been there for me like I was for her. Sorry I'm rambling on I'm having one of those bad weeks and I wouldn't dare confront my friend about how I feel. Because I know that she is still grieving and if she helped me with my grief it would only remind her of her own. So sorry, you guys and gals are stuck with me . So thanks for the shoulder.

[k9pal]

Your friend is just one of those people who can't understand.  She deserves pity since she will never know the pure love that comes from a furbaby.

As to the loss of a person or animal - losing a loved one is painful, whatever their species.  No one should think themselves qualified to judge how much grief another person is feeling. 

My thoughts are with you,


Daisy's Mommy

Daisy's Mommy, Thank you for your support. Yesterday I was in a foul mood, I didn't mean for people to believe that my friend is not a kind person. I feel that she is still mourning and cannot cope with my problems. I know it's one sided that is why it angers me. As for people judging our grief for our furbabies , I agree. Some people act as if you have the plague or that your adnormal because we love our furry friends. Like you said it is their lost.