Scorning Closure Options

[xrayspex]

Sometimes I read that word here....

"closure"

I HATE THAT WORD!!!

Maybe I just misunderstand it.

Why would anyone want to close anything on the past when it comes to the death of one of our furbabies? Even after embracing the elusive goal of acceptance, why would one finalize the issue by "closing it"? I missed the boat on this one. All the pain that we went through, all the soul searching we did, it challenged our very belief system. Belief is the very core of who we all are. It shapes our thoughts, our decision making. When our furbabies die we begin a journey, (unwillingly kicking and screaming all the while), into ourselves which in some cases can lead to unexpected discovery and awakening to who we really are. Closure to me sounds like "forget" and I must admit I feel angry every time I say it. Do we not learn more about life in this brutal encounter with death? I don't get it. What about the knowledge that was forced upon us when it came to facing our worst fear in life? We were forced to endure a fundamental truth of the universe and that knowledge we had to choke down taught us much about life itself. That knowledge that results in the healing we seek prepares us for our next task....

more furbabies...

This is our lot. This is who we are. How fortunate we are to have helped in the circle of life and to think back of all the furbabies we have loved in our lives. Almost everybody here I have had contact with are "multiple furbaby gaurdians", past and present. To close anything on a single shred of this is a violation of our furbabies past and a total disregard for what we may have gained in the process.

Our journey, our pain, our love and devotion to creatures great and small provides us with insight that those out there with the idea that its "just a pet" don't get.

Its "closure" I don't get

[My Buddy]

HI John and All....
I agree I hate that word closure, maybe I take it in a negative light....acceptance might be better...but you don't ever "get over it" completely. We just adopted a new golden r. puppy, back to puppy hood, Auggie is his name, he's an angel, and I am grateful and thankful to care for him now, since its been so long since we've had a sweetie boy to care for and love..but I realized it doesn't change my missing my boy, I haven't had "closure" yet, I cried the night before I picked up the puppy, I guess its closing a chapter and opening a new one, I don't really want to close, but I know I don't have a choice, its life, and we must keep going...but its funny how since our life is so different than 15 yrs ago when Hrudey boy was a pup, I'm different, and our family is different, we have a 7 yr old daughter who is a big helper and its fun watching her develop a love thing for the baby...her first puppy everyone remembers that in life, so it helps me to know that there is only one first dog in my life, and I will love and appreciate the rest but it can never replace the other because its so different, I am trying to stay on subject and I am not the prolific writer as you are, and a poor speller too...but I understand what you are wrestling with here. Its hard work and something that you have to work on all the time, at least I do...PS you are not long winded..you help me alot...keep up the long windedness...ha! Much Love, Tory, Hrudey's and Frank's Momma and now baby Auggie too!!